Keep him involved in other things. It helps a child stay focus. Maybe let him play a sport that he enjoys, when ppl feel good about one aspect of their life they try to keep the others up to par. Also be around, there's nothing worse than a kid who doesn't have support. Just make sure you're not doing his wirk and make sure you know how he's doing, but don't smother him or baby him or he'll cop outAre you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
im a teenager, i always got hihger grades cause i wanted my parents to be proud of me. but if i got good grades, they dont give me any reward. you know why im in rank 5 because im more focusing in my studies. im a hardworking student because i have my own goals to achieve, and i really wanted to achieve it. and i have one more reason, cause i dont want to be friends with the bad guys were they are so much influence. so i having friends with a good attitude.
Well for one thing lots of love and acceptance helps. If you love him and praise him often then he will want to try harder. Tell him to just do his best work, and that's all that you expect of him. He may not make straight A's but A's and B's But that's good ! If they do their best thats all you can ask of him. Pressuring a child can do more harm than good. I've put a little pressure on my child to make them understand that with good grades she can get scholarships to college, and good grades will benefit her (not me) in the long run. She (or he) must work hard to get into college. Nothing is more important than keeping focused on good grades. On the other hand I give my child a lot of freedom to do what she wants. I don't have her doing a lot of housework or in any outside sports or other activities her only responsibility is homework. When homework is done she can get on her computer, play games, watch movies etc. I also encourage lots of rest, go to bed early, and wake up early and do yoga when she gets up, or before she goes to bed. (She picked the exercise video) Recently I switched my child from a typical highschool to a alternative highschool. She didn't like the traditional setting and the drama of the kids. So I put her into that school to make her happy. (I went to a regular high school, and didn't understand why she would want to go to a different one) But I changed to make her happy and her grades and attendance went up. This was just what she needed. We parents have to do what is best for the child, or what the child wants (if it's a minor change) to make them happy. Putting pressure on them makes them miserable, and rebel, and they don't do very well. I don't agree with switching to an Alternative school normally because they don't offer the band, and foreign language and other things, and they are half days, but I had to figure do I want to be right, and force my child to do what I want or think is best or do I want my child to get through school wanting to do her best and being happy with herself. I want my child to be happy and have less stress. I don't generally award for good grades, hard work is it's own reward. I do give a little reward for certificates of perfect attendance and honor roll and other things (Usually once a year, at the end of the year) (But not for each report card) As fdr study habits, she must come home and do homework right after school, this way her mind is fresh from the day of education. I tell her to take notes, and keep a calendar for things she needs to remember, and an assignment book. I also have good communication with all her teachers which helps and lets my child know I'm interested in her education and I know if she does her homework, or falls behind, or is missing homework, or what her homework is. I ask the teacher each week via e-mail how my child is doing.
I have a teen that according to all the standarized test is very smart. However he gets bad grade because he does not turn in the assingments. I keep telling him that being smart is not enough you have to show the work. The is his senior year. We are praying he does better. Tell you child to DO THE WORK
I'm a teen. Though I wouldn't say that I have excellent grades, my grades aren't really what you'd call average or above average. I'm in my third year in high school so I survived the last two years. :P I don't really have study habits, at least I don't think I do but hopefully, your son will be able to use some of my suggestions:
- You should give yourself a time limit. Pressure yourself. I actually find it better if I cram because then I would be pressured to finish my projects, assignments, etc. If I get pressured then my mind will only be focused on one thing. So I guess, you should pressure yourself to study and do your tasks.
- It's better to study little by little than go all out in one day. Yes, as I've mentioned above I do cram. But I read in a magazine that you'll be able to memorize things better if you do it little by little 'cause then the facts will stay with you longer or something like that. My Chemistry teacher is making us memorize the periodic table and she gives us 10-item quizzes everyday involving 10 elements. Our first quiz was composed of elements 1-10, the next one about 11-20, etc. Most of the class got 9-10 as their scores.
- Have a study buddy! Or form a study group if you like. I don't really have one but sometimes when I'm with friends, we review each other and we clarify some things about a certain topic, etc. Sometimes, a few minutes before the exam, I sit with my friends and we ask each other questions. If ever she asks me a question which I don't know the answer to, I tell her I don't know and she'll give me the answer. Then I remember it before the start of the exam.
- When you're studying a subject, I suggest to read it first instead of memorizing every little detail that comes your way. I read the book first and since I cram during the periodicals, I usually don't have time to memorize each little fact. But then since I read it, I understand what happened, how this went, etc. You don't really need to memorize, you just have to understand what you read. But in the case of enumeration type of tests, then you should put yourself in the mood so as you won't get distracted too easily.
- Create a reviewer whenever you've got a big test coming up. Just fill it in with information that you think is going to be in the test. Don't duplicate your notes.
- On organization, I usually have a folder for each subject so that I would be able to find what I need for a certain subject easily. I recently bought a file case(?). I don't know what it's called but it's got these pockets inside for each subject. I suggest you find something like that so that your kid wouldn't have too much to bring.
Hope this helps you and your son. But I just hope that you wouldn't put too much pressure on him since that'll be a bad thing. Let him do this on his own. If you liked my suggestions, you could give it to him as advice but don't force him to use them since what I do don't really work on everybody. We've all got different learning styles so....
But anyways, my parents didn't pressure me into studying, they just encouraged me and they support me and whatever I do. It'll be best if you let your son be interested in school and whatever that goes inside it by himself. He would get better grades if he's really interested in the lesson/subject because he really likes it. Not because his parents forced him to like it. Give him space but not so much that he'll be at the point wherein he can abuse it.
Please do remember that since he's starting high school, it's best to let him join different clubs. This way, he can explore different things that interest him while at the same time he's enhancing different skills and talents. Also, so that he wouldn't feel too stressed about the fact that the only reason why he's in school is to study. You should let him have fun too. :D
Goodluck! Hope I've been of help! :)
Umm Hard question. All three of my teens do very well in high school. They all got on national honor society and the one who just graduated got the honors diploma.
I rewarded them in grade school, they had their choice of money for the A's or go out to eat somewhere nice. They always chose going out to eat.
I think by teaching/rewarding them for good grades and study habits back then continued in high school. I didnt have to do anything with them while in high school. I dont even reward them.
I just verbally tell them good job, give em a hug and I dont diss on them if the bring home the dreaded C. I know how hard they study so no way would I ever bring them down if they bring home a bad grade.
me teen with all A ++
just study 3 hours daily and thats it.
I graduated third in my class with honors. Getting good grades and doing well in school was instilled in me when I was little. My mom is also going back to college and my sister is also in school, so the three of us have ';homework hour';s where we get together in the living room and we do our homework. It's beneficial because we can't get distracted and we have each other to help us if we run into any problems. We take breaks every so often to get food or just rest, that way we don't get too bored and lose focus.
I had a lot of reading to do in high school, so I'd type out summaries of the passages into my own words so they made more sense (a little time-consuming, but it definitely helps to remember and better understand concepts). We weren't allowed marking in our textbooks, so in history class, I'd type/write notes in my own words, and then highlight certain things in certain colors (ex: dates in orange, names in yellow, people in green, etc... a little neurotic, I know! But it also helped).
Creating a sort of quiz after reading or before a test also helps. I would have one piece of paper with questions on it (ex: ';Psychology is the study of ________?'; or ';The five types of (something) are 1. _________ 2. _________'; etc.) and then I'd fill out the answers in pencil and then go back and look at the real answers. Whatever I left blank or got wrong, I would correct in a red pen (that way the things I still needed to know jumped out at me), and then take the quiz again until eventually I knew everything.
Having binders for each class with folder tabs marked for homework, tests/quizzes, notes, etc. helps stay organized. Using flashcards helped me a LOT, especially with remembering vocab or events in history. An agenda book or planner also helps keep assignments straight and will help remind your son when certain things are due.
I did sports in high school and it actually benefitted my grades because I didn't have time to put things off or procrastinate. Also, find out if your son studies better alone or with people, and then have him adapt his study skills to that.
I was given $10 for every report card, but if I even had one B, I did not get a dime. It definitely motivated me since I was not given an allowance. I'm not sure you should be that strict on motivating him, but it did work for me.
High school is more difficult than middle school and the assignments are longer, more in depth, and due in shorter amounts of time. There will be set-backs and frustrations, but just be there for your son when he experiences rough times. Hope my ideas helped! :o)
ya, i m a teen of 18 yr old .student of b.tech-1st yr.if your son has less i mean 1-2 or no friends be friendly to him and dont give any pressure.if he had more friends you r need to be strict at the time of home work other time u can be friendly to him.
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