The Block Parent programme appears to be supported by many but there is no information or statistics which support that the programme is even successful in protecting our children. How many children have benefited from the programme? Do children even use it? Has there been any issues when and if a child did use it?Statistically, is the the Block Parent Program a success?
No, idea.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
married- anybody else know anything on the subject- I'm sure there has to be some kind of loophole aka ';waiver'; to this new policy. I understand the need for it because 9 out of 10 single mothers are always late, trying to get out of, or not going to work but I was and would be again a good soldier even being a single parent.I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
its true you cant go back to active duty as a single parent (ref AR 601-210 chapter 2). however you do qualify for the ARMY reserves, as long as you have a good family care plan in place.
your recruiter is essentially right.I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
You do not have to be married. However, during any basic training and tech school, you will have to sign gaurdianship of your children over to someone else (usually a grandparent or a non-custodial parent). You can have it done in a way that gaurdianship will then be returned to you after you complete your training and are sent to your first duty station. BUT you will always have to have a family care plan in place. Basically, this is a plan detailing who would take and care for your children in the event of a deployment or being stationed in a place that does not allow family members to accompany (Korea is the best known of these). You will also have to have complete child care plans, including having child care to cover for any schedule (since many fields work 12 hour schedules or are in sections that run 24/7). Many single parents are serving in the armed forces and are doing so in an exemplery manner, but it does take a lot more planning and effort than it might take if you were married. Be sure that you have the support you will need if you need it before you enlist, otherwise you may find yourself in a very tight spot.
The Army National Guard seems to be the only branch that will consider single parents anymore: http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningth鈥?/a>
Unless you give full custody of the child to a family member or friend for the duration of the first part of your contract, you cannot enlist in the military as AD. Only the Reserves will allow you to enlist and you must have a Family Plan set for them to take you.
This isn't a new policy this is a policy that has been in play for awhile.
Talk to the recruiter and see if you have court papers giving one of the grand parents joint / shared custody, if there could be a waiver for your situation. Good Luck.
Vet-USAF
@dded 1/18/08 I talked to a recruiter Friend of mine today and he said that you could not come back active duty but you could come back as reserve. Sorry
I've never heard of that regulation. I know you have to have a family care plan, to include regular care for your child.
They should let you back in if you sign custody over to someone else at least if you have to go to basic training after that it shouldn't matter.
Never heard of this. Try another recruiter.
its true you cant go back to active duty as a single parent (ref AR 601-210 chapter 2). however you do qualify for the ARMY reserves, as long as you have a good family care plan in place.
your recruiter is essentially right.I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
You do not have to be married. However, during any basic training and tech school, you will have to sign gaurdianship of your children over to someone else (usually a grandparent or a non-custodial parent). You can have it done in a way that gaurdianship will then be returned to you after you complete your training and are sent to your first duty station. BUT you will always have to have a family care plan in place. Basically, this is a plan detailing who would take and care for your children in the event of a deployment or being stationed in a place that does not allow family members to accompany (Korea is the best known of these). You will also have to have complete child care plans, including having child care to cover for any schedule (since many fields work 12 hour schedules or are in sections that run 24/7). Many single parents are serving in the armed forces and are doing so in an exemplery manner, but it does take a lot more planning and effort than it might take if you were married. Be sure that you have the support you will need if you need it before you enlist, otherwise you may find yourself in a very tight spot.
The Army National Guard seems to be the only branch that will consider single parents anymore: http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningth鈥?/a>
Unless you give full custody of the child to a family member or friend for the duration of the first part of your contract, you cannot enlist in the military as AD. Only the Reserves will allow you to enlist and you must have a Family Plan set for them to take you.
This isn't a new policy this is a policy that has been in play for awhile.
Talk to the recruiter and see if you have court papers giving one of the grand parents joint / shared custody, if there could be a waiver for your situation. Good Luck.
Vet-USAF
@dded 1/18/08 I talked to a recruiter Friend of mine today and he said that you could not come back active duty but you could come back as reserve. Sorry
I've never heard of that regulation. I know you have to have a family care plan, to include regular care for your child.
They should let you back in if you sign custody over to someone else at least if you have to go to basic training after that it shouldn't matter.
Never heard of this. Try another recruiter.
Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
treated a certain way growing up for instance her parents or guardians hide things from them or didn't give them something they needed.
Now your parents raising you the same way they were treated by their parents, for example hiding certains things for you not to use. Can't that be a reflection of what was done to your parents for them to treat you like that.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
Yes. Often the behavior we see in our parents is reflective of the way they were treated while growing up. Unless there was another strong parental influence in their lives, your parents are basically reenacting their childhoods with you. It happens to the best of us. Even if we state we will not be like our parents, we end up acting like them eventually. I said that I was not going to be like my mother when I was growing up. Now, I have begun to notice small similarities between us. It's not always a bad thing. But it is difficult to shake that trend.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
That's a really simplified version of the truth. It's definitely a possibility, because the biggest model for someone who is a parent are the people they watched when they were a kid (and by that I mean, their parents). But that doesn't mean that everything that parents do is the same as what their parents do! It's just one factor that plays into how people learn to do one of the most difficult tasks in life.
it is unfair and unfortunate that our parents raise us the same way that they were. they can't always figure it out that somethings that was good for them isn't good for us. times change people chang as it has been said many millions of times. we need to keep up with the times. conservatives people don't like to change and are too afraid to change or make changes. most conservatives believe that if it's not broken, don't fix it.
anyway, when it comes time for you to raise your children if there is something that doesn't seem right than change it. try to remember your parents and what they did about it. then remember how this mad you feel. after that you should be able to safely make your changes. by the way it makes no sense to try and analise what your parents went though with their parents. you have to remember that these people didn't use their brains as much as we do now.
I'm a bit confused, but I've always made a conscientious effort NOT to raise my child the way I was raised, in any way. It's now normal for me to not do the things or react the way my parents did (even though the instinct pops in my head immediately) and I hope my son learns that.
I don't get what they could be hiding from you that you NEED to use. Maybe you should grow up, get a job, and buy your own things. If your parents don't want you to use something that is theirs, then you should get over it and respect their wishes.
yes it's true. but only because they think that everyone was treated like that, and that it was normal to treat them like that. yes, i think it's unfair that they do that.
Sure, my dad got spoiled, so do I. But with my mom, it's not really opposite from how she was raised but it's a lot different. Her parents were stingy (sin-gee?) and my mom is a little and has a hard time spending $75 on a tshirt for me, but my dad doesn't.
yes, but it isnt as likely as it is said to be
theres sometimes its the way someone is raised, and everyone else is like that
but its not usually a continuing trait
probably. you should bring your concerns to your parents. stop the cycle try not to repeat these mysterious behaviors with your kids.
sounds like you figured it out...whatever their hiding must have a tabooo meaning to it
sounds like a vicious cycle
Now your parents raising you the same way they were treated by their parents, for example hiding certains things for you not to use. Can't that be a reflection of what was done to your parents for them to treat you like that.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
Yes. Often the behavior we see in our parents is reflective of the way they were treated while growing up. Unless there was another strong parental influence in their lives, your parents are basically reenacting their childhoods with you. It happens to the best of us. Even if we state we will not be like our parents, we end up acting like them eventually. I said that I was not going to be like my mother when I was growing up. Now, I have begun to notice small similarities between us. It's not always a bad thing. But it is difficult to shake that trend.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
That's a really simplified version of the truth. It's definitely a possibility, because the biggest model for someone who is a parent are the people they watched when they were a kid (and by that I mean, their parents). But that doesn't mean that everything that parents do is the same as what their parents do! It's just one factor that plays into how people learn to do one of the most difficult tasks in life.
it is unfair and unfortunate that our parents raise us the same way that they were. they can't always figure it out that somethings that was good for them isn't good for us. times change people chang as it has been said many millions of times. we need to keep up with the times. conservatives people don't like to change and are too afraid to change or make changes. most conservatives believe that if it's not broken, don't fix it.
anyway, when it comes time for you to raise your children if there is something that doesn't seem right than change it. try to remember your parents and what they did about it. then remember how this mad you feel. after that you should be able to safely make your changes. by the way it makes no sense to try and analise what your parents went though with their parents. you have to remember that these people didn't use their brains as much as we do now.
I'm a bit confused, but I've always made a conscientious effort NOT to raise my child the way I was raised, in any way. It's now normal for me to not do the things or react the way my parents did (even though the instinct pops in my head immediately) and I hope my son learns that.
I don't get what they could be hiding from you that you NEED to use. Maybe you should grow up, get a job, and buy your own things. If your parents don't want you to use something that is theirs, then you should get over it and respect their wishes.
yes it's true. but only because they think that everyone was treated like that, and that it was normal to treat them like that. yes, i think it's unfair that they do that.
Sure, my dad got spoiled, so do I. But with my mom, it's not really opposite from how she was raised but it's a lot different. Her parents were stingy (sin-gee?) and my mom is a little and has a hard time spending $75 on a tshirt for me, but my dad doesn't.
yes, but it isnt as likely as it is said to be
theres sometimes its the way someone is raised, and everyone else is like that
but its not usually a continuing trait
probably. you should bring your concerns to your parents. stop the cycle try not to repeat these mysterious behaviors with your kids.
sounds like you figured it out...whatever their hiding must have a tabooo meaning to it
sounds like a vicious cycle
How could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Unless they tell you, or you find out from documentation, you can't. By ordering it by court, can get you into some pretty high cost. If the person tested, is found out not to be your parent. You can be sued. Just ask nicely and they may tell you, or they could just lie to you as well. Good Luck!How could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
IMpossibleHow could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Are you trying to verify paternity? Not the most accurate, considering that depending on the blood type; millions of people could have the same type.
IMpossibleHow could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Are you trying to verify paternity? Not the most accurate, considering that depending on the blood type; millions of people could have the same type.
How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
Well, without more details, I would say the best thing to do is ignore them. If they're saying things like ';My son scored more goals that your son and should have more playing time.'; or ';My daughter has been taking tap lessons longer than your daughter and should have the solo.'; Then just reply with something like ';Your son/daughter is a VERY good player/dancer. We're just happy that our child has the opportunity to play/dance with so many kids of different skill levels and we're proud of all of them.'; Then walk away.
If it's not so much competition as comparing them all the time: ';Billy doesn't catch a ball as well as Johnny does, have you noticed?'; ';Amy can spell her name AND count to 10, why doesn't Jenny do that yet?'; A similar answer would do: ';It really is great that Billy/Amy are so good at catching/spelling. Johnny/Jenny like to catch/spell, too and will probably catch up soon.'; Then smile politely and walk away.
The point is to not get dragged in to the competition. Nobody's kids are better than anyone else's and you should try to shield your kids from that mean-spirited competetiveness and focus on learning to take turns, learning how to be a good winner and a good loser, and enjoying the activity they're involved in.How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
get your kids the better coaching.. kick the other kids parents kids butts.. do what you can to get the edge..How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
Personally I just wouldn't let my children play with their children much anymore. Children don't need to be in an environment where they always feel extreme pressure to succeed or be better than someone else. I don't feel that it's healthy. Our society today pushes children so hard to be better than anyone else and I feel that it's detrimental to our children. In school's anyone who is in normal classes is stupid, those in Honors are normal, and those in AP are the ones considered intelligent. I don't even want to think about what the children in remedial programs are considered. It all leads to self esteem issues that can last a lifetime.
Don't handle them.
They're stuck-up snobs.
Although you can just laugh and say 'Hey, at least mine has love.' and see the look on their faces!
Well as they say, their always trying to keep up with the Jones's. just let them compete, as long as there's no bodily or emotional harm, let them act childish. You can't tell another grown person what to do with their kids.
I grew up in a split family home. My step father had two girls my age. We were always in competition with each other. And I can't lie and say our parents weren't a good part of it. If my mom went and bought me a sweater, he would go buy his girls one nicer and more expensive. We were competitive when it came to sports, school work, and even dating and driving.
This hurts the children. Especially their relationships with each other. We should had grown up being best friends! Getting ready for dances, proms, doing projects together, hanging out, movies, but we weren't. And now we are grown, married, and have children, and still yet the feelings are there. Now our parents compare the grandchildren. Its wrong.
Try doing more together. Most importantly talk with the other parent. It may be that that parent was cut down or didn't feel good about their self as a child. Try to resolve this issue as soon as you can.
get a better job because youll need the money to win the battle
Let them know that you feel they are acting immaturely.
Keep you kids away from her kids, people like that haven't figured out that the world doesn't revolve around them and their kids. You can try and talk to her but it probably won't work. Good Luck...
Have your children be better than them, my Angelica is way better than my brother Stu's Tommy and Dil.
I guess that I would try to talk to her by letting her know that you don't want to herts her feelings. then try telling her how you feel. Just let her know that it looks to you how ever it looks and then try talking to her about it and lit her know that it herts her kids.
Be the bigger person and brush it off... it happens all the time. You just got to learn that its not worth fretting over! Good Luck!
If it's not so much competition as comparing them all the time: ';Billy doesn't catch a ball as well as Johnny does, have you noticed?'; ';Amy can spell her name AND count to 10, why doesn't Jenny do that yet?'; A similar answer would do: ';It really is great that Billy/Amy are so good at catching/spelling. Johnny/Jenny like to catch/spell, too and will probably catch up soon.'; Then smile politely and walk away.
The point is to not get dragged in to the competition. Nobody's kids are better than anyone else's and you should try to shield your kids from that mean-spirited competetiveness and focus on learning to take turns, learning how to be a good winner and a good loser, and enjoying the activity they're involved in.How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
get your kids the better coaching.. kick the other kids parents kids butts.. do what you can to get the edge..How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
Personally I just wouldn't let my children play with their children much anymore. Children don't need to be in an environment where they always feel extreme pressure to succeed or be better than someone else. I don't feel that it's healthy. Our society today pushes children so hard to be better than anyone else and I feel that it's detrimental to our children. In school's anyone who is in normal classes is stupid, those in Honors are normal, and those in AP are the ones considered intelligent. I don't even want to think about what the children in remedial programs are considered. It all leads to self esteem issues that can last a lifetime.
Don't handle them.
They're stuck-up snobs.
Although you can just laugh and say 'Hey, at least mine has love.' and see the look on their faces!
Well as they say, their always trying to keep up with the Jones's. just let them compete, as long as there's no bodily or emotional harm, let them act childish. You can't tell another grown person what to do with their kids.
I grew up in a split family home. My step father had two girls my age. We were always in competition with each other. And I can't lie and say our parents weren't a good part of it. If my mom went and bought me a sweater, he would go buy his girls one nicer and more expensive. We were competitive when it came to sports, school work, and even dating and driving.
This hurts the children. Especially their relationships with each other. We should had grown up being best friends! Getting ready for dances, proms, doing projects together, hanging out, movies, but we weren't. And now we are grown, married, and have children, and still yet the feelings are there. Now our parents compare the grandchildren. Its wrong.
Try doing more together. Most importantly talk with the other parent. It may be that that parent was cut down or didn't feel good about their self as a child. Try to resolve this issue as soon as you can.
get a better job because youll need the money to win the battle
Let them know that you feel they are acting immaturely.
Keep you kids away from her kids, people like that haven't figured out that the world doesn't revolve around them and their kids. You can try and talk to her but it probably won't work. Good Luck...
Have your children be better than them, my Angelica is way better than my brother Stu's Tommy and Dil.
I guess that I would try to talk to her by letting her know that you don't want to herts her feelings. then try telling her how you feel. Just let her know that it looks to you how ever it looks and then try talking to her about it and lit her know that it herts her kids.
Be the bigger person and brush it off... it happens all the time. You just got to learn that its not worth fretting over! Good Luck!
Are you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
My son will be starting high school real soon and I wanted some advice from teens/parents of teens on how to help him get better grades. Teens: Do you have any good study tips, organization tips that would be helpful? Parents: any good advice on keeping your child motivated about his schoolwork, what are your rules concerning when homework need to be done, how do you support your highschooler, do you reward good grades at all?Are you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
Keep him involved in other things. It helps a child stay focus. Maybe let him play a sport that he enjoys, when ppl feel good about one aspect of their life they try to keep the others up to par. Also be around, there's nothing worse than a kid who doesn't have support. Just make sure you're not doing his wirk and make sure you know how he's doing, but don't smother him or baby him or he'll cop outAre you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
im a teenager, i always got hihger grades cause i wanted my parents to be proud of me. but if i got good grades, they dont give me any reward. you know why im in rank 5 because im more focusing in my studies. im a hardworking student because i have my own goals to achieve, and i really wanted to achieve it. and i have one more reason, cause i dont want to be friends with the bad guys were they are so much influence. so i having friends with a good attitude.
Well for one thing lots of love and acceptance helps. If you love him and praise him often then he will want to try harder. Tell him to just do his best work, and that's all that you expect of him. He may not make straight A's but A's and B's But that's good ! If they do their best thats all you can ask of him. Pressuring a child can do more harm than good. I've put a little pressure on my child to make them understand that with good grades she can get scholarships to college, and good grades will benefit her (not me) in the long run. She (or he) must work hard to get into college. Nothing is more important than keeping focused on good grades. On the other hand I give my child a lot of freedom to do what she wants. I don't have her doing a lot of housework or in any outside sports or other activities her only responsibility is homework. When homework is done she can get on her computer, play games, watch movies etc. I also encourage lots of rest, go to bed early, and wake up early and do yoga when she gets up, or before she goes to bed. (She picked the exercise video) Recently I switched my child from a typical highschool to a alternative highschool. She didn't like the traditional setting and the drama of the kids. So I put her into that school to make her happy. (I went to a regular high school, and didn't understand why she would want to go to a different one) But I changed to make her happy and her grades and attendance went up. This was just what she needed. We parents have to do what is best for the child, or what the child wants (if it's a minor change) to make them happy. Putting pressure on them makes them miserable, and rebel, and they don't do very well. I don't agree with switching to an Alternative school normally because they don't offer the band, and foreign language and other things, and they are half days, but I had to figure do I want to be right, and force my child to do what I want or think is best or do I want my child to get through school wanting to do her best and being happy with herself. I want my child to be happy and have less stress. I don't generally award for good grades, hard work is it's own reward. I do give a little reward for certificates of perfect attendance and honor roll and other things (Usually once a year, at the end of the year) (But not for each report card) As fdr study habits, she must come home and do homework right after school, this way her mind is fresh from the day of education. I tell her to take notes, and keep a calendar for things she needs to remember, and an assignment book. I also have good communication with all her teachers which helps and lets my child know I'm interested in her education and I know if she does her homework, or falls behind, or is missing homework, or what her homework is. I ask the teacher each week via e-mail how my child is doing.
I have a teen that according to all the standarized test is very smart. However he gets bad grade because he does not turn in the assingments. I keep telling him that being smart is not enough you have to show the work. The is his senior year. We are praying he does better. Tell you child to DO THE WORK
I'm a teen. Though I wouldn't say that I have excellent grades, my grades aren't really what you'd call average or above average. I'm in my third year in high school so I survived the last two years. :P I don't really have study habits, at least I don't think I do but hopefully, your son will be able to use some of my suggestions:
- You should give yourself a time limit. Pressure yourself. I actually find it better if I cram because then I would be pressured to finish my projects, assignments, etc. If I get pressured then my mind will only be focused on one thing. So I guess, you should pressure yourself to study and do your tasks.
- It's better to study little by little than go all out in one day. Yes, as I've mentioned above I do cram. But I read in a magazine that you'll be able to memorize things better if you do it little by little 'cause then the facts will stay with you longer or something like that. My Chemistry teacher is making us memorize the periodic table and she gives us 10-item quizzes everyday involving 10 elements. Our first quiz was composed of elements 1-10, the next one about 11-20, etc. Most of the class got 9-10 as their scores.
- Have a study buddy! Or form a study group if you like. I don't really have one but sometimes when I'm with friends, we review each other and we clarify some things about a certain topic, etc. Sometimes, a few minutes before the exam, I sit with my friends and we ask each other questions. If ever she asks me a question which I don't know the answer to, I tell her I don't know and she'll give me the answer. Then I remember it before the start of the exam.
- When you're studying a subject, I suggest to read it first instead of memorizing every little detail that comes your way. I read the book first and since I cram during the periodicals, I usually don't have time to memorize each little fact. But then since I read it, I understand what happened, how this went, etc. You don't really need to memorize, you just have to understand what you read. But in the case of enumeration type of tests, then you should put yourself in the mood so as you won't get distracted too easily.
- Create a reviewer whenever you've got a big test coming up. Just fill it in with information that you think is going to be in the test. Don't duplicate your notes.
- On organization, I usually have a folder for each subject so that I would be able to find what I need for a certain subject easily. I recently bought a file case(?). I don't know what it's called but it's got these pockets inside for each subject. I suggest you find something like that so that your kid wouldn't have too much to bring.
Hope this helps you and your son. But I just hope that you wouldn't put too much pressure on him since that'll be a bad thing. Let him do this on his own. If you liked my suggestions, you could give it to him as advice but don't force him to use them since what I do don't really work on everybody. We've all got different learning styles so....
But anyways, my parents didn't pressure me into studying, they just encouraged me and they support me and whatever I do. It'll be best if you let your son be interested in school and whatever that goes inside it by himself. He would get better grades if he's really interested in the lesson/subject because he really likes it. Not because his parents forced him to like it. Give him space but not so much that he'll be at the point wherein he can abuse it.
Please do remember that since he's starting high school, it's best to let him join different clubs. This way, he can explore different things that interest him while at the same time he's enhancing different skills and talents. Also, so that he wouldn't feel too stressed about the fact that the only reason why he's in school is to study. You should let him have fun too. :D
Goodluck! Hope I've been of help! :)
Umm Hard question. All three of my teens do very well in high school. They all got on national honor society and the one who just graduated got the honors diploma.
I rewarded them in grade school, they had their choice of money for the A's or go out to eat somewhere nice. They always chose going out to eat.
I think by teaching/rewarding them for good grades and study habits back then continued in high school. I didnt have to do anything with them while in high school. I dont even reward them.
I just verbally tell them good job, give em a hug and I dont diss on them if the bring home the dreaded C. I know how hard they study so no way would I ever bring them down if they bring home a bad grade.
me teen with all A ++
just study 3 hours daily and thats it.
I graduated third in my class with honors. Getting good grades and doing well in school was instilled in me when I was little. My mom is also going back to college and my sister is also in school, so the three of us have ';homework hour';s where we get together in the living room and we do our homework. It's beneficial because we can't get distracted and we have each other to help us if we run into any problems. We take breaks every so often to get food or just rest, that way we don't get too bored and lose focus.
I had a lot of reading to do in high school, so I'd type out summaries of the passages into my own words so they made more sense (a little time-consuming, but it definitely helps to remember and better understand concepts). We weren't allowed marking in our textbooks, so in history class, I'd type/write notes in my own words, and then highlight certain things in certain colors (ex: dates in orange, names in yellow, people in green, etc... a little neurotic, I know! But it also helped).
Creating a sort of quiz after reading or before a test also helps. I would have one piece of paper with questions on it (ex: ';Psychology is the study of ________?'; or ';The five types of (something) are 1. _________ 2. _________'; etc.) and then I'd fill out the answers in pencil and then go back and look at the real answers. Whatever I left blank or got wrong, I would correct in a red pen (that way the things I still needed to know jumped out at me), and then take the quiz again until eventually I knew everything.
Having binders for each class with folder tabs marked for homework, tests/quizzes, notes, etc. helps stay organized. Using flashcards helped me a LOT, especially with remembering vocab or events in history. An agenda book or planner also helps keep assignments straight and will help remind your son when certain things are due.
I did sports in high school and it actually benefitted my grades because I didn't have time to put things off or procrastinate. Also, find out if your son studies better alone or with people, and then have him adapt his study skills to that.
I was given $10 for every report card, but if I even had one B, I did not get a dime. It definitely motivated me since I was not given an allowance. I'm not sure you should be that strict on motivating him, but it did work for me.
High school is more difficult than middle school and the assignments are longer, more in depth, and due in shorter amounts of time. There will be set-backs and frustrations, but just be there for your son when he experiences rough times. Hope my ideas helped! :o)
ya, i m a teen of 18 yr old .student of b.tech-1st yr.if your son has less i mean 1-2 or no friends be friendly to him and dont give any pressure.if he had more friends you r need to be strict at the time of home work other time u can be friendly to him.lipstick gloss
Keep him involved in other things. It helps a child stay focus. Maybe let him play a sport that he enjoys, when ppl feel good about one aspect of their life they try to keep the others up to par. Also be around, there's nothing worse than a kid who doesn't have support. Just make sure you're not doing his wirk and make sure you know how he's doing, but don't smother him or baby him or he'll cop outAre you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
im a teenager, i always got hihger grades cause i wanted my parents to be proud of me. but if i got good grades, they dont give me any reward. you know why im in rank 5 because im more focusing in my studies. im a hardworking student because i have my own goals to achieve, and i really wanted to achieve it. and i have one more reason, cause i dont want to be friends with the bad guys were they are so much influence. so i having friends with a good attitude.
Well for one thing lots of love and acceptance helps. If you love him and praise him often then he will want to try harder. Tell him to just do his best work, and that's all that you expect of him. He may not make straight A's but A's and B's But that's good ! If they do their best thats all you can ask of him. Pressuring a child can do more harm than good. I've put a little pressure on my child to make them understand that with good grades she can get scholarships to college, and good grades will benefit her (not me) in the long run. She (or he) must work hard to get into college. Nothing is more important than keeping focused on good grades. On the other hand I give my child a lot of freedom to do what she wants. I don't have her doing a lot of housework or in any outside sports or other activities her only responsibility is homework. When homework is done she can get on her computer, play games, watch movies etc. I also encourage lots of rest, go to bed early, and wake up early and do yoga when she gets up, or before she goes to bed. (She picked the exercise video) Recently I switched my child from a typical highschool to a alternative highschool. She didn't like the traditional setting and the drama of the kids. So I put her into that school to make her happy. (I went to a regular high school, and didn't understand why she would want to go to a different one) But I changed to make her happy and her grades and attendance went up. This was just what she needed. We parents have to do what is best for the child, or what the child wants (if it's a minor change) to make them happy. Putting pressure on them makes them miserable, and rebel, and they don't do very well. I don't agree with switching to an Alternative school normally because they don't offer the band, and foreign language and other things, and they are half days, but I had to figure do I want to be right, and force my child to do what I want or think is best or do I want my child to get through school wanting to do her best and being happy with herself. I want my child to be happy and have less stress. I don't generally award for good grades, hard work is it's own reward. I do give a little reward for certificates of perfect attendance and honor roll and other things (Usually once a year, at the end of the year) (But not for each report card) As fdr study habits, she must come home and do homework right after school, this way her mind is fresh from the day of education. I tell her to take notes, and keep a calendar for things she needs to remember, and an assignment book. I also have good communication with all her teachers which helps and lets my child know I'm interested in her education and I know if she does her homework, or falls behind, or is missing homework, or what her homework is. I ask the teacher each week via e-mail how my child is doing.
I have a teen that according to all the standarized test is very smart. However he gets bad grade because he does not turn in the assingments. I keep telling him that being smart is not enough you have to show the work. The is his senior year. We are praying he does better. Tell you child to DO THE WORK
I'm a teen. Though I wouldn't say that I have excellent grades, my grades aren't really what you'd call average or above average. I'm in my third year in high school so I survived the last two years. :P I don't really have study habits, at least I don't think I do but hopefully, your son will be able to use some of my suggestions:
- You should give yourself a time limit. Pressure yourself. I actually find it better if I cram because then I would be pressured to finish my projects, assignments, etc. If I get pressured then my mind will only be focused on one thing. So I guess, you should pressure yourself to study and do your tasks.
- It's better to study little by little than go all out in one day. Yes, as I've mentioned above I do cram. But I read in a magazine that you'll be able to memorize things better if you do it little by little 'cause then the facts will stay with you longer or something like that. My Chemistry teacher is making us memorize the periodic table and she gives us 10-item quizzes everyday involving 10 elements. Our first quiz was composed of elements 1-10, the next one about 11-20, etc. Most of the class got 9-10 as their scores.
- Have a study buddy! Or form a study group if you like. I don't really have one but sometimes when I'm with friends, we review each other and we clarify some things about a certain topic, etc. Sometimes, a few minutes before the exam, I sit with my friends and we ask each other questions. If ever she asks me a question which I don't know the answer to, I tell her I don't know and she'll give me the answer. Then I remember it before the start of the exam.
- When you're studying a subject, I suggest to read it first instead of memorizing every little detail that comes your way. I read the book first and since I cram during the periodicals, I usually don't have time to memorize each little fact. But then since I read it, I understand what happened, how this went, etc. You don't really need to memorize, you just have to understand what you read. But in the case of enumeration type of tests, then you should put yourself in the mood so as you won't get distracted too easily.
- Create a reviewer whenever you've got a big test coming up. Just fill it in with information that you think is going to be in the test. Don't duplicate your notes.
- On organization, I usually have a folder for each subject so that I would be able to find what I need for a certain subject easily. I recently bought a file case(?). I don't know what it's called but it's got these pockets inside for each subject. I suggest you find something like that so that your kid wouldn't have too much to bring.
Hope this helps you and your son. But I just hope that you wouldn't put too much pressure on him since that'll be a bad thing. Let him do this on his own. If you liked my suggestions, you could give it to him as advice but don't force him to use them since what I do don't really work on everybody. We've all got different learning styles so....
But anyways, my parents didn't pressure me into studying, they just encouraged me and they support me and whatever I do. It'll be best if you let your son be interested in school and whatever that goes inside it by himself. He would get better grades if he's really interested in the lesson/subject because he really likes it. Not because his parents forced him to like it. Give him space but not so much that he'll be at the point wherein he can abuse it.
Please do remember that since he's starting high school, it's best to let him join different clubs. This way, he can explore different things that interest him while at the same time he's enhancing different skills and talents. Also, so that he wouldn't feel too stressed about the fact that the only reason why he's in school is to study. You should let him have fun too. :D
Goodluck! Hope I've been of help! :)
Umm Hard question. All three of my teens do very well in high school. They all got on national honor society and the one who just graduated got the honors diploma.
I rewarded them in grade school, they had their choice of money for the A's or go out to eat somewhere nice. They always chose going out to eat.
I think by teaching/rewarding them for good grades and study habits back then continued in high school. I didnt have to do anything with them while in high school. I dont even reward them.
I just verbally tell them good job, give em a hug and I dont diss on them if the bring home the dreaded C. I know how hard they study so no way would I ever bring them down if they bring home a bad grade.
me teen with all A ++
just study 3 hours daily and thats it.
I graduated third in my class with honors. Getting good grades and doing well in school was instilled in me when I was little. My mom is also going back to college and my sister is also in school, so the three of us have ';homework hour';s where we get together in the living room and we do our homework. It's beneficial because we can't get distracted and we have each other to help us if we run into any problems. We take breaks every so often to get food or just rest, that way we don't get too bored and lose focus.
I had a lot of reading to do in high school, so I'd type out summaries of the passages into my own words so they made more sense (a little time-consuming, but it definitely helps to remember and better understand concepts). We weren't allowed marking in our textbooks, so in history class, I'd type/write notes in my own words, and then highlight certain things in certain colors (ex: dates in orange, names in yellow, people in green, etc... a little neurotic, I know! But it also helped).
Creating a sort of quiz after reading or before a test also helps. I would have one piece of paper with questions on it (ex: ';Psychology is the study of ________?'; or ';The five types of (something) are 1. _________ 2. _________'; etc.) and then I'd fill out the answers in pencil and then go back and look at the real answers. Whatever I left blank or got wrong, I would correct in a red pen (that way the things I still needed to know jumped out at me), and then take the quiz again until eventually I knew everything.
Having binders for each class with folder tabs marked for homework, tests/quizzes, notes, etc. helps stay organized. Using flashcards helped me a LOT, especially with remembering vocab or events in history. An agenda book or planner also helps keep assignments straight and will help remind your son when certain things are due.
I did sports in high school and it actually benefitted my grades because I didn't have time to put things off or procrastinate. Also, find out if your son studies better alone or with people, and then have him adapt his study skills to that.
I was given $10 for every report card, but if I even had one B, I did not get a dime. It definitely motivated me since I was not given an allowance. I'm not sure you should be that strict on motivating him, but it did work for me.
High school is more difficult than middle school and the assignments are longer, more in depth, and due in shorter amounts of time. There will be set-backs and frustrations, but just be there for your son when he experiences rough times. Hope my ideas helped! :o)
ya, i m a teen of 18 yr old .student of b.tech-1st yr.if your son has less i mean 1-2 or no friends be friendly to him and dont give any pressure.if he had more friends you r need to be strict at the time of home work other time u can be friendly to him.
Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
Shravan Kumar is a character of ancient time Hindu epic ';Ramayana';.Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
Their names were not given in the epic. it just says that they were blind and frail. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
it is belived that name of shravan's father was SHANTVAN and mother's name was GYANVATI
u can refer to the book-
Shrawan Kumar (The worthy son) By B.K. Chaturvedi
Dear Friends!!
I know their Name.....
Shravan Kumar's Father's Name was Shantvan Kumar Sharma
Mother's Name was Gyanvati S. Sharma and
Sister was Vidyavati Sharma (After marriage Vidyavati Narbada Shankar)
So Tanuj is absolutely right....
Sorry, I cannot find it anywhere..I tried to research it but after a couple of dozen sites, they all refer to his parents as just that ';his parents';. The story is a legend, part of the cultures mythologies so I am guessing that the parents were not given a name because it had nothing to do with the concept of the story, which is be devoted to your parents. I'll keep looking and if I come across it I will re-post the answer, and if you happen to find out please post it because now I need to know! :)
Their names were not given in the epic. it just says that they were blind and frail. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
it is belived that name of shravan's father was SHANTVAN and mother's name was GYANVATI
u can refer to the book-
Shrawan Kumar (The worthy son) By B.K. Chaturvedi
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Dear Friends!!
I know their Name.....
Shravan Kumar's Father's Name was Shantvan Kumar Sharma
Mother's Name was Gyanvati S. Sharma and
Sister was Vidyavati Sharma (After marriage Vidyavati Narbada Shankar)
So Tanuj is absolutely right....
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Sorry, I cannot find it anywhere..I tried to research it but after a couple of dozen sites, they all refer to his parents as just that ';his parents';. The story is a legend, part of the cultures mythologies so I am guessing that the parents were not given a name because it had nothing to do with the concept of the story, which is be devoted to your parents. I'll keep looking and if I come across it I will re-post the answer, and if you happen to find out please post it because now I need to know! :)
When applying for financial aid, what percentage of the amount should be the parent's contribution?
FAFSA has a fairly complex formula. The parents' contribution depends on their assets and income, their age, and how many other children they have, among other things.When applying for financial aid, what percentage of the amount should be the parent's contribution?
The FAFSA figures this all out but it's totally BS. my parents contributed nothing and the school doesn't care.
The FAFSA figures this all out but it's totally BS. my parents contributed nothing and the school doesn't care.
How many hours does a parent usually work?
I need the statistic number because I am doing a research paper on how long hours affect kids. Thank you!How many hours does a parent usually work?
My hubby works 14 hours a day, 7 days a week.(9 a.m to 11 p.m) It affects our 2 year old a LOT because whenever he does takes a day off, she's all over him. Sometimes, she acts shy like he's a stranger and won't go near him. I'm a stay at home Mom, so I'm on the clock 24 hours 7 days a week.How many hours does a parent usually work?
Too many!
Parenting is one of those 24/7 jobs, honey!
I WORK 8 HRS A DAY 5 DAYS OUT OF THE WEEK. SO 40 HRS PER WK AND 160 HRS A MONTH
My hubby works 14 hours a day, 7 days a week.(9 a.m to 11 p.m) It affects our 2 year old a LOT because whenever he does takes a day off, she's all over him. Sometimes, she acts shy like he's a stranger and won't go near him. I'm a stay at home Mom, so I'm on the clock 24 hours 7 days a week.How many hours does a parent usually work?
Too many!
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Parenting is one of those 24/7 jobs, honey!
I WORK 8 HRS A DAY 5 DAYS OUT OF THE WEEK. SO 40 HRS PER WK AND 160 HRS A MONTH
How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
It is nearly a must for student success. Very few students, specifically young students, are able to succeed with out parental involvement.How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
parents should be involved to the extent of ecouraging their children and helping them to work at their education. A parent's interest is a great thing when they use it to help their child exceed but do not interfere to hinder them.How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
I do not encourage my student's parents to help with their education. I teach chemistry and AP Physics and most of their parent are clueless when it come to these subjects. I say leave teaching to the teachers. Parents should shape their child's life and manors.
It is necessary
It is vital to the success of their children and to the general success of the school. Officials don't listen to teacher's recommendations for change or improvement, but they will listen to parents. Parents can also put (appropriate) pressure on their kids to do well in school
If as many parents were positivly involved with classroom learning as are involved in band/sports/etc then the world would be a much better place.
It just works. Both are educators and they should work together.
there needs to be more of it...enough said
personally i think parental involvement is a pain. it makes you less self reliant when your parents insist on interfering. and i know teachers hate dealing with parents all the time. its great when your parent cares, but getting too much involved is flat out annoying
parents should be involved to the extent of ecouraging their children and helping them to work at their education. A parent's interest is a great thing when they use it to help their child exceed but do not interfere to hinder them.How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
I do not encourage my student's parents to help with their education. I teach chemistry and AP Physics and most of their parent are clueless when it come to these subjects. I say leave teaching to the teachers. Parents should shape their child's life and manors.
It is necessary
It is vital to the success of their children and to the general success of the school. Officials don't listen to teacher's recommendations for change or improvement, but they will listen to parents. Parents can also put (appropriate) pressure on their kids to do well in school
If as many parents were positivly involved with classroom learning as are involved in band/sports/etc then the world would be a much better place.
It just works. Both are educators and they should work together.
there needs to be more of it...enough said
personally i think parental involvement is a pain. it makes you less self reliant when your parents insist on interfering. and i know teachers hate dealing with parents all the time. its great when your parent cares, but getting too much involved is flat out annoying
If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
Not everyday but once in a while - I was paying my sister in law for babysitting - but can no longer do so.If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
ABSOLUTELY!!!! You need all the help you can get! I was single with 3 kids~!
After a while, they were sick of helping me. Don't abuse their help.
My kids get babysat for up to 2 hours a week at our local Family Connection Center, see if there's one in your area. Check with government listings.If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
Yes it is okay, you say that it isn't often but once in a while, yes, it is totally acceptable, if you don't ask for it, you won't get it. Pride is great but being humble helps also, just mention to your sister-in-law the situation and see if some type of batter system can be set up, maybe you can babysit for her or something else. Just know that no good deed goes unnoticed and make sure to repay, in case you need that person again. God Bless.
That's what family is for. Just don't abuse it.
go for it. family is usually understanding if you tell them straight up what is going on and don't lie. I give you credit for doing what you can though...good luck
i used to be a single parent before i remarried. i tried not to ask my mom and dad for help while i was putting myself through school. Because they wanted to see me succeed, they were very willing to help out. if your family really loves you they will help out without complaining or insult. as hilary says it takes a village to raise a family.
i was a single mom for 5 years and the only way i made it through was from the help of my family and friends. dont be afraid to ask for help it doesnt make you a failure it would only mean that your that good of a mom to lower you pride and ask for help its hard to do but if thats the only way your going to make it. just remeber to be there in the future for them if they need you. cant you get child care help through the state agencies
I wouldn't so much ';ask for help'; as to tell your sister in law in a very apologetic way that you simply can't afford to pay her for babysitting for awhile and ask her if that's okay. It's really not something that she can say no to and still feel like a decent person. But I really wouldn't go a outright asking for money- perhaps a loan, but you don't want to come off as a mooch (even though you're not- you genuinely need financial help, but sometimes it can be interpreted wrong by people). I would just sort of discreetly and indirectly let them know that money is very tight for you right now, and I'm sure that they'll be understanding.
if you need help, there are programs you can go get on, like h.u.d., w.i.c.k., welfare and so on.. some times people need help and thats what they are there for.
they could help you with babysitting, food, rent, bills, drug problems, school and so on.
Once you are well educated (if you are right now) and get a good job, you will have to pay taxes and some of them taxes go to help people thats in a rut in life.
Don't be to proud to go that way. just don't abuse the help.
good luck, hope I helped some.
Paul
absolutley. your family should help you out.
Just as long as you don't depend on them and ask them for every little thing. It's annoying. Family or not - they'll get tired of it, eventually.
Asking family for help can tax the relationship.
i would say 100% its right to ask your family - tell them the truth that you cannot afford to pay her - and possiable offer to baby sit back her child/ren (if she has one/some) to let her have time for herself.
If you're working hard but still need help I don't see the problem in asking for it. If would be different if you're bumming off them. Gdluck to u.
ABSOLUTELY!!!! You need all the help you can get! I was single with 3 kids~!
After a while, they were sick of helping me. Don't abuse their help.
My kids get babysat for up to 2 hours a week at our local Family Connection Center, see if there's one in your area. Check with government listings.If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
Yes it is okay, you say that it isn't often but once in a while, yes, it is totally acceptable, if you don't ask for it, you won't get it. Pride is great but being humble helps also, just mention to your sister-in-law the situation and see if some type of batter system can be set up, maybe you can babysit for her or something else. Just know that no good deed goes unnoticed and make sure to repay, in case you need that person again. God Bless.
That's what family is for. Just don't abuse it.
go for it. family is usually understanding if you tell them straight up what is going on and don't lie. I give you credit for doing what you can though...good luck
i used to be a single parent before i remarried. i tried not to ask my mom and dad for help while i was putting myself through school. Because they wanted to see me succeed, they were very willing to help out. if your family really loves you they will help out without complaining or insult. as hilary says it takes a village to raise a family.
i was a single mom for 5 years and the only way i made it through was from the help of my family and friends. dont be afraid to ask for help it doesnt make you a failure it would only mean that your that good of a mom to lower you pride and ask for help its hard to do but if thats the only way your going to make it. just remeber to be there in the future for them if they need you. cant you get child care help through the state agencies
I wouldn't so much ';ask for help'; as to tell your sister in law in a very apologetic way that you simply can't afford to pay her for babysitting for awhile and ask her if that's okay. It's really not something that she can say no to and still feel like a decent person. But I really wouldn't go a outright asking for money- perhaps a loan, but you don't want to come off as a mooch (even though you're not- you genuinely need financial help, but sometimes it can be interpreted wrong by people). I would just sort of discreetly and indirectly let them know that money is very tight for you right now, and I'm sure that they'll be understanding.
if you need help, there are programs you can go get on, like h.u.d., w.i.c.k., welfare and so on.. some times people need help and thats what they are there for.
they could help you with babysitting, food, rent, bills, drug problems, school and so on.
Once you are well educated (if you are right now) and get a good job, you will have to pay taxes and some of them taxes go to help people thats in a rut in life.
Don't be to proud to go that way. just don't abuse the help.
good luck, hope I helped some.
Paul
absolutley. your family should help you out.
Just as long as you don't depend on them and ask them for every little thing. It's annoying. Family or not - they'll get tired of it, eventually.
Asking family for help can tax the relationship.
i would say 100% its right to ask your family - tell them the truth that you cannot afford to pay her - and possiable offer to baby sit back her child/ren (if she has one/some) to let her have time for herself.
If you're working hard but still need help I don't see the problem in asking for it. If would be different if you're bumming off them. Gdluck to u.
How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
Please help!How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
Hi grandma and grandpa.How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
I told my mom before my dad because she is the one who incouraged me. She was extremely happy. (First time grandmother)
My dad on the other hand... I called him a few weeks before I had used the ovulation kit and told him my plans after asking him not to yell at me for what I was going to be saying. I had to verify myself because my step sister was already pregnant and he was against it pretty much 100% due to her being irresponsible, not married, ect..
My dad has had a hard time excepting my lifestyle.. I'm a lesbian who is making a child with another person of the same sex and I am still in my 20's. I knew this would probably kill him. Infact though, he did take it pretty well.. Now I don't know what he did AFTER he hung up.. but he didn't show it to me and that is all that matters. The day I got my positive result he was in OK state and I didn't leave a message... The next few days passed by and he called me back and asked what I had wanted. I told him flat out and he said he pretty much expected it.
Now he is trying to help with the baby shower that is January 4th and he seems to be very interested. He also has been taking care of my stepsister's baby on days that she needs a babysitter and that is shocking to me. I think he will be a good Ojiisan. I hope so!
Overall... Telling them was pretty hard but their reactions have given me comfort.
My parents are the relaxed, easy going type so when I found out that I was pregnant I was not worried at all. I knew that they would be more worried for me than upset. When my mother came home I sat her down on the couch and said I have something for you, so when she reached out her hand I gave her my pregnancy test. But with the pops I just simply sat down next to him on the bench outside and told him that I was pregnant. The key is to answer their questions as long as you are comfortable. It just realy depends if they are strict or not. I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck
For me, my mother in law was the one that told my mom. She had just assumed that I was pregnant and told everyone-I didn't have the chance to share the good news-I was sooooo upset. What I was going to do was just call and tell them and once they knew I wanted to send them a picture of the ultrasound.
i made a silly mistake and told my mom first and my husband and i went and had it confirmed the next day at the doctor and as soon as we walked in the house everybody already knew i was pregnant... so when we announced it nobody acted that surprised, but they were happy!!!!!!
set them both down and tell them you need to talk to them.
and just tell them that you are pregnant with so and so.
if you have a a plan, then you need to tell them about your plan also or if you dont have one then you need to ask them to help you.
I told my mom in private because I wasnt sure how she would react or what she would say. She ended up being really excited about it. My spouse and I drove 2 hours to meet up with my Father %26amp; his wife to announce ';were expecting'; and it went over great. They were so happy for us.
As for my spouse, he told his family over the phone because they were so far away. So nothing too special in our case, but its fun to be creative when coming up with ways of telling them.
I’ll assume that you are still a minor and living with your parents:
Just do it Juno style. Find the support and guidance of a friend or family member and tell your parents directly. They will be far madder if you withhold it than if you say it sooner.
Hope everything works out
I called my mom and told her that I got a positive pregnancy test...I was shocked that I was *really* pregnant (it was so surreal) and I think I followed up with ';.....but I'm gonna get a digital just to make sure';
With my dad I told him over the phone too. I just said ';Oh, guess what..I'm pregnant.';
Well, are you looking for a cute way to surprise them or are you breaking bad news to them?
I think a cute way would be to pick up a ';world's best grandma'; mug or something at hallmark and have her over for coffee :)
Well how old are you? If you're still in high school, I'd say there's a pretty good chance your parents aren't going to be that happy. But if you're older they would probably be thrilled to have a grandchild.
i would tell my mom first, and have her help me break it to my dad,
i would be kind of afraid that my dad would want to kill my boyfriend.
one of my friends sisters got a merry christmas grandpa card for their dad.. that worked
or if you are young and not married or anything then i would just spit it out, it will all be better that way
I found out on parents anniversary that I was pregnant and I walked up to them and said Hey mom dad I'm pregnant whats for dinner??
is this bad news?
if so then theres really no easy way, just say i have something i need to talk to you about, a very serious thing. then be straight forward
Are you like under 18??
I dont even want to think about it the first place cuz if i tell them they would basically kill me lol
if your over 19 then your old enuf and you dont have to worry lol
Good luck!
If you go to a university or college you should go to your bookstore and get them ';so and so'; University Grandma/Grandpa.
I was 18 and I was scared, but I just set them down and told them. I felt so much better because I didn't have that stress anymore.
Well...i ordered a pan of butt pizza and shared it with them as we watched a home made video of how i got pregnant.
you say: hey, mom dad umm.. im guna have a kid anyways im going out bye see ya later! and then run out the door before they kill you
You should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex. Now you will just have to tell them straight up.
I din't. cuz I'm not. I could never do anything so severe w/o having them on my case...
Very simple. Just say Mom, dad im pregnant i know your angry but that what young adults do these days
mom i'm pregnant
and i haven't told my dad or boyfriends mom either
sit down with the boy or one of your family members that you trust that u knw they would stick up for u and tell them!
just plain out say, ';Mom, Dad Im pregnant';
We need more details: age, situation with the guy, etc.
i sent them a text message.
Just tell them how it all started.
Get PLAN B
hey i got knocked up......
sit down with them and just tell them they will understandlipstick gloss
Hi grandma and grandpa.How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
I told my mom before my dad because she is the one who incouraged me. She was extremely happy. (First time grandmother)
My dad on the other hand... I called him a few weeks before I had used the ovulation kit and told him my plans after asking him not to yell at me for what I was going to be saying. I had to verify myself because my step sister was already pregnant and he was against it pretty much 100% due to her being irresponsible, not married, ect..
My dad has had a hard time excepting my lifestyle.. I'm a lesbian who is making a child with another person of the same sex and I am still in my 20's. I knew this would probably kill him. Infact though, he did take it pretty well.. Now I don't know what he did AFTER he hung up.. but he didn't show it to me and that is all that matters. The day I got my positive result he was in OK state and I didn't leave a message... The next few days passed by and he called me back and asked what I had wanted. I told him flat out and he said he pretty much expected it.
Now he is trying to help with the baby shower that is January 4th and he seems to be very interested. He also has been taking care of my stepsister's baby on days that she needs a babysitter and that is shocking to me. I think he will be a good Ojiisan. I hope so!
Overall... Telling them was pretty hard but their reactions have given me comfort.
My parents are the relaxed, easy going type so when I found out that I was pregnant I was not worried at all. I knew that they would be more worried for me than upset. When my mother came home I sat her down on the couch and said I have something for you, so when she reached out her hand I gave her my pregnancy test. But with the pops I just simply sat down next to him on the bench outside and told him that I was pregnant. The key is to answer their questions as long as you are comfortable. It just realy depends if they are strict or not. I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck
For me, my mother in law was the one that told my mom. She had just assumed that I was pregnant and told everyone-I didn't have the chance to share the good news-I was sooooo upset. What I was going to do was just call and tell them and once they knew I wanted to send them a picture of the ultrasound.
i made a silly mistake and told my mom first and my husband and i went and had it confirmed the next day at the doctor and as soon as we walked in the house everybody already knew i was pregnant... so when we announced it nobody acted that surprised, but they were happy!!!!!!
set them both down and tell them you need to talk to them.
and just tell them that you are pregnant with so and so.
if you have a a plan, then you need to tell them about your plan also or if you dont have one then you need to ask them to help you.
I told my mom in private because I wasnt sure how she would react or what she would say. She ended up being really excited about it. My spouse and I drove 2 hours to meet up with my Father %26amp; his wife to announce ';were expecting'; and it went over great. They were so happy for us.
As for my spouse, he told his family over the phone because they were so far away. So nothing too special in our case, but its fun to be creative when coming up with ways of telling them.
I’ll assume that you are still a minor and living with your parents:
Just do it Juno style. Find the support and guidance of a friend or family member and tell your parents directly. They will be far madder if you withhold it than if you say it sooner.
Hope everything works out
I called my mom and told her that I got a positive pregnancy test...I was shocked that I was *really* pregnant (it was so surreal) and I think I followed up with ';.....but I'm gonna get a digital just to make sure';
With my dad I told him over the phone too. I just said ';Oh, guess what..I'm pregnant.';
Well, are you looking for a cute way to surprise them or are you breaking bad news to them?
I think a cute way would be to pick up a ';world's best grandma'; mug or something at hallmark and have her over for coffee :)
Well how old are you? If you're still in high school, I'd say there's a pretty good chance your parents aren't going to be that happy. But if you're older they would probably be thrilled to have a grandchild.
i would tell my mom first, and have her help me break it to my dad,
i would be kind of afraid that my dad would want to kill my boyfriend.
one of my friends sisters got a merry christmas grandpa card for their dad.. that worked
or if you are young and not married or anything then i would just spit it out, it will all be better that way
I found out on parents anniversary that I was pregnant and I walked up to them and said Hey mom dad I'm pregnant whats for dinner??
is this bad news?
if so then theres really no easy way, just say i have something i need to talk to you about, a very serious thing. then be straight forward
Are you like under 18??
I dont even want to think about it the first place cuz if i tell them they would basically kill me lol
if your over 19 then your old enuf and you dont have to worry lol
Good luck!
If you go to a university or college you should go to your bookstore and get them ';so and so'; University Grandma/Grandpa.
I was 18 and I was scared, but I just set them down and told them. I felt so much better because I didn't have that stress anymore.
Well...i ordered a pan of butt pizza and shared it with them as we watched a home made video of how i got pregnant.
you say: hey, mom dad umm.. im guna have a kid anyways im going out bye see ya later! and then run out the door before they kill you
You should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex. Now you will just have to tell them straight up.
I din't. cuz I'm not. I could never do anything so severe w/o having them on my case...
Very simple. Just say Mom, dad im pregnant i know your angry but that what young adults do these days
mom i'm pregnant
and i haven't told my dad or boyfriends mom either
sit down with the boy or one of your family members that you trust that u knw they would stick up for u and tell them!
just plain out say, ';Mom, Dad Im pregnant';
We need more details: age, situation with the guy, etc.
i sent them a text message.
Just tell them how it all started.
Get PLAN B
hey i got knocked up......
sit down with them and just tell them they will understand
Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
my friend's mom told her that she could invade her privacy cause its the law. like, read her texts and stuff like that. is this true? shes 14 btw.Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
Yes. It stinks but until you are on your own, your parents have full control, as it should be, it's their job. Mine were the same way and it didn't affect my life in any bad way at all. It was a bit annoying, but eventually you will move out and it won't be an issue any more.Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
Most probably, remember parents wants only whats best for their children and if you don't do anything wrong, you would not feel the need to hide it.
Yes. Mom's have the right to know what goes on in their houses. You might be building a bomb ~ for 9/11 exercises? When you have your own house/kids you'll understand.
Peace.
Yes it is true. Technically that is not your friends phone but her parents phone. Same with her stuff and her room.
probably....
yes
Yes. It stinks but until you are on your own, your parents have full control, as it should be, it's their job. Mine were the same way and it didn't affect my life in any bad way at all. It was a bit annoying, but eventually you will move out and it won't be an issue any more.Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
Most probably, remember parents wants only whats best for their children and if you don't do anything wrong, you would not feel the need to hide it.
Yes. Mom's have the right to know what goes on in their houses. You might be building a bomb ~ for 9/11 exercises? When you have your own house/kids you'll understand.
Peace.
Yes it is true. Technically that is not your friends phone but her parents phone. Same with her stuff and her room.
probably....
yes
How could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Unless they tell you, or you find out from documentation, you can't. By ordering it by court, can get you into some pretty high cost. If the person tested, is found out not to be your parent. You can be sued. Just ask nicely and they may tell you, or they could just lie to you as well. Good Luck!How could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
IMpossibleHow could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Are you trying to verify paternity? Not the most accurate, considering that depending on the blood type; millions of people could have the same type.
IMpossibleHow could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Are you trying to verify paternity? Not the most accurate, considering that depending on the blood type; millions of people could have the same type.
When applying for financial aid, what percentage of the amount should be the parent's contribution?
FAFSA has a fairly complex formula. The parents' contribution depends on their assets and income, their age, and how many other children they have, among other things.When applying for financial aid, what percentage of the amount should be the parent's contribution?
The FAFSA figures this all out but it's totally BS. my parents contributed nothing and the school doesn't care.
The FAFSA figures this all out but it's totally BS. my parents contributed nothing and the school doesn't care.
How many hours does a parent usually work?
I need the statistic number because I am doing a research paper on how long hours affect kids. Thank you!How many hours does a parent usually work?
My hubby works 14 hours a day, 7 days a week.(9 a.m to 11 p.m) It affects our 2 year old a LOT because whenever he does takes a day off, she's all over him. Sometimes, she acts shy like he's a stranger and won't go near him. I'm a stay at home Mom, so I'm on the clock 24 hours 7 days a week.How many hours does a parent usually work?
Too many!
Parenting is one of those 24/7 jobs, honey!
I WORK 8 HRS A DAY 5 DAYS OUT OF THE WEEK. SO 40 HRS PER WK AND 160 HRS A MONTH
My hubby works 14 hours a day, 7 days a week.(9 a.m to 11 p.m) It affects our 2 year old a LOT because whenever he does takes a day off, she's all over him. Sometimes, she acts shy like he's a stranger and won't go near him. I'm a stay at home Mom, so I'm on the clock 24 hours 7 days a week.How many hours does a parent usually work?
Too many!
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Parenting is one of those 24/7 jobs, honey!
I WORK 8 HRS A DAY 5 DAYS OUT OF THE WEEK. SO 40 HRS PER WK AND 160 HRS A MONTH
How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
It is nearly a must for student success. Very few students, specifically young students, are able to succeed with out parental involvement.How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
parents should be involved to the extent of ecouraging their children and helping them to work at their education. A parent's interest is a great thing when they use it to help their child exceed but do not interfere to hinder them.How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
I do not encourage my student's parents to help with their education. I teach chemistry and AP Physics and most of their parent are clueless when it come to these subjects. I say leave teaching to the teachers. Parents should shape their child's life and manors.
It is necessary
It is vital to the success of their children and to the general success of the school. Officials don't listen to teacher's recommendations for change or improvement, but they will listen to parents. Parents can also put (appropriate) pressure on their kids to do well in school
If as many parents were positivly involved with classroom learning as are involved in band/sports/etc then the world would be a much better place.
It just works. Both are educators and they should work together.
there needs to be more of it...enough said
personally i think parental involvement is a pain. it makes you less self reliant when your parents insist on interfering. and i know teachers hate dealing with parents all the time. its great when your parent cares, but getting too much involved is flat out annoying
parents should be involved to the extent of ecouraging their children and helping them to work at their education. A parent's interest is a great thing when they use it to help their child exceed but do not interfere to hinder them.How do you feel about parent involvement in education?
I do not encourage my student's parents to help with their education. I teach chemistry and AP Physics and most of their parent are clueless when it come to these subjects. I say leave teaching to the teachers. Parents should shape their child's life and manors.
It is necessary
It is vital to the success of their children and to the general success of the school. Officials don't listen to teacher's recommendations for change or improvement, but they will listen to parents. Parents can also put (appropriate) pressure on their kids to do well in school
If as many parents were positivly involved with classroom learning as are involved in band/sports/etc then the world would be a much better place.
It just works. Both are educators and they should work together.
there needs to be more of it...enough said
personally i think parental involvement is a pain. it makes you less self reliant when your parents insist on interfering. and i know teachers hate dealing with parents all the time. its great when your parent cares, but getting too much involved is flat out annoying
If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
Not everyday but once in a while - I was paying my sister in law for babysitting - but can no longer do so.If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
ABSOLUTELY!!!! You need all the help you can get! I was single with 3 kids~!
After a while, they were sick of helping me. Don't abuse their help.
My kids get babysat for up to 2 hours a week at our local Family Connection Center, see if there's one in your area. Check with government listings.If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
Yes it is okay, you say that it isn't often but once in a while, yes, it is totally acceptable, if you don't ask for it, you won't get it. Pride is great but being humble helps also, just mention to your sister-in-law the situation and see if some type of batter system can be set up, maybe you can babysit for her or something else. Just know that no good deed goes unnoticed and make sure to repay, in case you need that person again. God Bless.
That's what family is for. Just don't abuse it.
go for it. family is usually understanding if you tell them straight up what is going on and don't lie. I give you credit for doing what you can though...good luck
i used to be a single parent before i remarried. i tried not to ask my mom and dad for help while i was putting myself through school. Because they wanted to see me succeed, they were very willing to help out. if your family really loves you they will help out without complaining or insult. as hilary says it takes a village to raise a family.
i was a single mom for 5 years and the only way i made it through was from the help of my family and friends. dont be afraid to ask for help it doesnt make you a failure it would only mean that your that good of a mom to lower you pride and ask for help its hard to do but if thats the only way your going to make it. just remeber to be there in the future for them if they need you. cant you get child care help through the state agencies
I wouldn't so much ';ask for help'; as to tell your sister in law in a very apologetic way that you simply can't afford to pay her for babysitting for awhile and ask her if that's okay. It's really not something that she can say no to and still feel like a decent person. But I really wouldn't go a outright asking for money- perhaps a loan, but you don't want to come off as a mooch (even though you're not- you genuinely need financial help, but sometimes it can be interpreted wrong by people). I would just sort of discreetly and indirectly let them know that money is very tight for you right now, and I'm sure that they'll be understanding.
if you need help, there are programs you can go get on, like h.u.d., w.i.c.k., welfare and so on.. some times people need help and thats what they are there for.
they could help you with babysitting, food, rent, bills, drug problems, school and so on.
Once you are well educated (if you are right now) and get a good job, you will have to pay taxes and some of them taxes go to help people thats in a rut in life.
Don't be to proud to go that way. just don't abuse the help.
good luck, hope I helped some.
Paul
absolutley. your family should help you out.
Just as long as you don't depend on them and ask them for every little thing. It's annoying. Family or not - they'll get tired of it, eventually.
Asking family for help can tax the relationship.
i would say 100% its right to ask your family - tell them the truth that you cannot afford to pay her - and possiable offer to baby sit back her child/ren (if she has one/some) to let her have time for herself.
If you're working hard but still need help I don't see the problem in asking for it. If would be different if you're bumming off them. Gdluck to u.lipstick gloss
ABSOLUTELY!!!! You need all the help you can get! I was single with 3 kids~!
After a while, they were sick of helping me. Don't abuse their help.
My kids get babysat for up to 2 hours a week at our local Family Connection Center, see if there's one in your area. Check with government listings.If I am a single parent is it right for me to ask help from my family ?
Yes it is okay, you say that it isn't often but once in a while, yes, it is totally acceptable, if you don't ask for it, you won't get it. Pride is great but being humble helps also, just mention to your sister-in-law the situation and see if some type of batter system can be set up, maybe you can babysit for her or something else. Just know that no good deed goes unnoticed and make sure to repay, in case you need that person again. God Bless.
That's what family is for. Just don't abuse it.
go for it. family is usually understanding if you tell them straight up what is going on and don't lie. I give you credit for doing what you can though...good luck
i used to be a single parent before i remarried. i tried not to ask my mom and dad for help while i was putting myself through school. Because they wanted to see me succeed, they were very willing to help out. if your family really loves you they will help out without complaining or insult. as hilary says it takes a village to raise a family.
i was a single mom for 5 years and the only way i made it through was from the help of my family and friends. dont be afraid to ask for help it doesnt make you a failure it would only mean that your that good of a mom to lower you pride and ask for help its hard to do but if thats the only way your going to make it. just remeber to be there in the future for them if they need you. cant you get child care help through the state agencies
I wouldn't so much ';ask for help'; as to tell your sister in law in a very apologetic way that you simply can't afford to pay her for babysitting for awhile and ask her if that's okay. It's really not something that she can say no to and still feel like a decent person. But I really wouldn't go a outright asking for money- perhaps a loan, but you don't want to come off as a mooch (even though you're not- you genuinely need financial help, but sometimes it can be interpreted wrong by people). I would just sort of discreetly and indirectly let them know that money is very tight for you right now, and I'm sure that they'll be understanding.
if you need help, there are programs you can go get on, like h.u.d., w.i.c.k., welfare and so on.. some times people need help and thats what they are there for.
they could help you with babysitting, food, rent, bills, drug problems, school and so on.
Once you are well educated (if you are right now) and get a good job, you will have to pay taxes and some of them taxes go to help people thats in a rut in life.
Don't be to proud to go that way. just don't abuse the help.
good luck, hope I helped some.
Paul
absolutley. your family should help you out.
Just as long as you don't depend on them and ask them for every little thing. It's annoying. Family or not - they'll get tired of it, eventually.
Asking family for help can tax the relationship.
i would say 100% its right to ask your family - tell them the truth that you cannot afford to pay her - and possiable offer to baby sit back her child/ren (if she has one/some) to let her have time for herself.
If you're working hard but still need help I don't see the problem in asking for it. If would be different if you're bumming off them. Gdluck to u.
How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
Please help!How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
Hi grandma and grandpa.How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
I told my mom before my dad because she is the one who incouraged me. She was extremely happy. (First time grandmother)
My dad on the other hand... I called him a few weeks before I had used the ovulation kit and told him my plans after asking him not to yell at me for what I was going to be saying. I had to verify myself because my step sister was already pregnant and he was against it pretty much 100% due to her being irresponsible, not married, ect..
My dad has had a hard time excepting my lifestyle.. I'm a lesbian who is making a child with another person of the same sex and I am still in my 20's. I knew this would probably kill him. Infact though, he did take it pretty well.. Now I don't know what he did AFTER he hung up.. but he didn't show it to me and that is all that matters. The day I got my positive result he was in OK state and I didn't leave a message... The next few days passed by and he called me back and asked what I had wanted. I told him flat out and he said he pretty much expected it.
Now he is trying to help with the baby shower that is January 4th and he seems to be very interested. He also has been taking care of my stepsister's baby on days that she needs a babysitter and that is shocking to me. I think he will be a good Ojiisan. I hope so!
Overall... Telling them was pretty hard but their reactions have given me comfort.
My parents are the relaxed, easy going type so when I found out that I was pregnant I was not worried at all. I knew that they would be more worried for me than upset. When my mother came home I sat her down on the couch and said I have something for you, so when she reached out her hand I gave her my pregnancy test. But with the pops I just simply sat down next to him on the bench outside and told him that I was pregnant. The key is to answer their questions as long as you are comfortable. It just realy depends if they are strict or not. I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck
For me, my mother in law was the one that told my mom. She had just assumed that I was pregnant and told everyone-I didn't have the chance to share the good news-I was sooooo upset. What I was going to do was just call and tell them and once they knew I wanted to send them a picture of the ultrasound.
i made a silly mistake and told my mom first and my husband and i went and had it confirmed the next day at the doctor and as soon as we walked in the house everybody already knew i was pregnant... so when we announced it nobody acted that surprised, but they were happy!!!!!!
set them both down and tell them you need to talk to them.
and just tell them that you are pregnant with so and so.
if you have a a plan, then you need to tell them about your plan also or if you dont have one then you need to ask them to help you.
I told my mom in private because I wasnt sure how she would react or what she would say. She ended up being really excited about it. My spouse and I drove 2 hours to meet up with my Father %26amp; his wife to announce ';were expecting'; and it went over great. They were so happy for us.
As for my spouse, he told his family over the phone because they were so far away. So nothing too special in our case, but its fun to be creative when coming up with ways of telling them.
I’ll assume that you are still a minor and living with your parents:
Just do it Juno style. Find the support and guidance of a friend or family member and tell your parents directly. They will be far madder if you withhold it than if you say it sooner.
Hope everything works out
I called my mom and told her that I got a positive pregnancy test...I was shocked that I was *really* pregnant (it was so surreal) and I think I followed up with ';.....but I'm gonna get a digital just to make sure';
With my dad I told him over the phone too. I just said ';Oh, guess what..I'm pregnant.';
Well, are you looking for a cute way to surprise them or are you breaking bad news to them?
I think a cute way would be to pick up a ';world's best grandma'; mug or something at hallmark and have her over for coffee :)
Well how old are you? If you're still in high school, I'd say there's a pretty good chance your parents aren't going to be that happy. But if you're older they would probably be thrilled to have a grandchild.
i would tell my mom first, and have her help me break it to my dad,
i would be kind of afraid that my dad would want to kill my boyfriend.
one of my friends sisters got a merry christmas grandpa card for their dad.. that worked
or if you are young and not married or anything then i would just spit it out, it will all be better that way
I found out on parents anniversary that I was pregnant and I walked up to them and said Hey mom dad I'm pregnant whats for dinner??
is this bad news?
if so then theres really no easy way, just say i have something i need to talk to you about, a very serious thing. then be straight forward
Are you like under 18??
I dont even want to think about it the first place cuz if i tell them they would basically kill me lol
if your over 19 then your old enuf and you dont have to worry lol
Good luck!
If you go to a university or college you should go to your bookstore and get them ';so and so'; University Grandma/Grandpa.
I was 18 and I was scared, but I just set them down and told them. I felt so much better because I didn't have that stress anymore.
Well...i ordered a pan of butt pizza and shared it with them as we watched a home made video of how i got pregnant.
you say: hey, mom dad umm.. im guna have a kid anyways im going out bye see ya later! and then run out the door before they kill you
You should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex. Now you will just have to tell them straight up.
I din't. cuz I'm not. I could never do anything so severe w/o having them on my case...
Very simple. Just say Mom, dad im pregnant i know your angry but that what young adults do these days
mom i'm pregnant
and i haven't told my dad or boyfriends mom either
sit down with the boy or one of your family members that you trust that u knw they would stick up for u and tell them!
just plain out say, ';Mom, Dad Im pregnant';
We need more details: age, situation with the guy, etc.
i sent them a text message.
Just tell them how it all started.
Get PLAN B
hey i got knocked up......
sit down with them and just tell them they will understand
Hi grandma and grandpa.How did you tell your parent/s that you are pregnant?
I told my mom before my dad because she is the one who incouraged me. She was extremely happy. (First time grandmother)
My dad on the other hand... I called him a few weeks before I had used the ovulation kit and told him my plans after asking him not to yell at me for what I was going to be saying. I had to verify myself because my step sister was already pregnant and he was against it pretty much 100% due to her being irresponsible, not married, ect..
My dad has had a hard time excepting my lifestyle.. I'm a lesbian who is making a child with another person of the same sex and I am still in my 20's. I knew this would probably kill him. Infact though, he did take it pretty well.. Now I don't know what he did AFTER he hung up.. but he didn't show it to me and that is all that matters. The day I got my positive result he was in OK state and I didn't leave a message... The next few days passed by and he called me back and asked what I had wanted. I told him flat out and he said he pretty much expected it.
Now he is trying to help with the baby shower that is January 4th and he seems to be very interested. He also has been taking care of my stepsister's baby on days that she needs a babysitter and that is shocking to me. I think he will be a good Ojiisan. I hope so!
Overall... Telling them was pretty hard but their reactions have given me comfort.
My parents are the relaxed, easy going type so when I found out that I was pregnant I was not worried at all. I knew that they would be more worried for me than upset. When my mother came home I sat her down on the couch and said I have something for you, so when she reached out her hand I gave her my pregnancy test. But with the pops I just simply sat down next to him on the bench outside and told him that I was pregnant. The key is to answer their questions as long as you are comfortable. It just realy depends if they are strict or not. I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck
For me, my mother in law was the one that told my mom. She had just assumed that I was pregnant and told everyone-I didn't have the chance to share the good news-I was sooooo upset. What I was going to do was just call and tell them and once they knew I wanted to send them a picture of the ultrasound.
i made a silly mistake and told my mom first and my husband and i went and had it confirmed the next day at the doctor and as soon as we walked in the house everybody already knew i was pregnant... so when we announced it nobody acted that surprised, but they were happy!!!!!!
set them both down and tell them you need to talk to them.
and just tell them that you are pregnant with so and so.
if you have a a plan, then you need to tell them about your plan also or if you dont have one then you need to ask them to help you.
I told my mom in private because I wasnt sure how she would react or what she would say. She ended up being really excited about it. My spouse and I drove 2 hours to meet up with my Father %26amp; his wife to announce ';were expecting'; and it went over great. They were so happy for us.
As for my spouse, he told his family over the phone because they were so far away. So nothing too special in our case, but its fun to be creative when coming up with ways of telling them.
I’ll assume that you are still a minor and living with your parents:
Just do it Juno style. Find the support and guidance of a friend or family member and tell your parents directly. They will be far madder if you withhold it than if you say it sooner.
Hope everything works out
I called my mom and told her that I got a positive pregnancy test...I was shocked that I was *really* pregnant (it was so surreal) and I think I followed up with ';.....but I'm gonna get a digital just to make sure';
With my dad I told him over the phone too. I just said ';Oh, guess what..I'm pregnant.';
Well, are you looking for a cute way to surprise them or are you breaking bad news to them?
I think a cute way would be to pick up a ';world's best grandma'; mug or something at hallmark and have her over for coffee :)
Well how old are you? If you're still in high school, I'd say there's a pretty good chance your parents aren't going to be that happy. But if you're older they would probably be thrilled to have a grandchild.
i would tell my mom first, and have her help me break it to my dad,
i would be kind of afraid that my dad would want to kill my boyfriend.
one of my friends sisters got a merry christmas grandpa card for their dad.. that worked
or if you are young and not married or anything then i would just spit it out, it will all be better that way
I found out on parents anniversary that I was pregnant and I walked up to them and said Hey mom dad I'm pregnant whats for dinner??
is this bad news?
if so then theres really no easy way, just say i have something i need to talk to you about, a very serious thing. then be straight forward
Are you like under 18??
I dont even want to think about it the first place cuz if i tell them they would basically kill me lol
if your over 19 then your old enuf and you dont have to worry lol
Good luck!
If you go to a university or college you should go to your bookstore and get them ';so and so'; University Grandma/Grandpa.
I was 18 and I was scared, but I just set them down and told them. I felt so much better because I didn't have that stress anymore.
Well...i ordered a pan of butt pizza and shared it with them as we watched a home made video of how i got pregnant.
you say: hey, mom dad umm.. im guna have a kid anyways im going out bye see ya later! and then run out the door before they kill you
You should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex. Now you will just have to tell them straight up.
I din't. cuz I'm not. I could never do anything so severe w/o having them on my case...
Very simple. Just say Mom, dad im pregnant i know your angry but that what young adults do these days
mom i'm pregnant
and i haven't told my dad or boyfriends mom either
sit down with the boy or one of your family members that you trust that u knw they would stick up for u and tell them!
just plain out say, ';Mom, Dad Im pregnant';
We need more details: age, situation with the guy, etc.
i sent them a text message.
Just tell them how it all started.
Get PLAN B
hey i got knocked up......
sit down with them and just tell them they will understand
Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
my friend's mom told her that she could invade her privacy cause its the law. like, read her texts and stuff like that. is this true? shes 14 btw.Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
Yes. It stinks but until you are on your own, your parents have full control, as it should be, it's their job. Mine were the same way and it didn't affect my life in any bad way at all. It was a bit annoying, but eventually you will move out and it won't be an issue any more.Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
Most probably, remember parents wants only whats best for their children and if you don't do anything wrong, you would not feel the need to hide it.
Yes. Mom's have the right to know what goes on in their houses. You might be building a bomb ~ for 9/11 exercises? When you have your own house/kids you'll understand.
Peace.
Yes it is true. Technically that is not your friends phone but her parents phone. Same with her stuff and her room.
probably....
yes
Yes. It stinks but until you are on your own, your parents have full control, as it should be, it's their job. Mine were the same way and it didn't affect my life in any bad way at all. It was a bit annoying, but eventually you will move out and it won't be an issue any more.Is it true that your parent can look through your personal stuff if you're a minor?
Most probably, remember parents wants only whats best for their children and if you don't do anything wrong, you would not feel the need to hide it.
Yes. Mom's have the right to know what goes on in their houses. You might be building a bomb ~ for 9/11 exercises? When you have your own house/kids you'll understand.
Peace.
Yes it is true. Technically that is not your friends phone but her parents phone. Same with her stuff and her room.
probably....
yes
When is it too old for a child sit in their opposite sex parent's lap?
My son is 6 and I still let him sit in my lap when he wants.When is it too old for a child sit in their opposite sex parent's lap?
I don't think a child can ever get too old to sit on their parent's lap, regardless of gender.When is it too old for a child sit in their opposite sex parent's lap?
Are you really asking this question?
This is kind of one of those questions like making 5 year old children obey the dress codes at church camp, the same ones of sixteen year old ones. He is six, not sixteen. I'd say that like, eight is pushing it. Not allowing him to sit on your lap is kind of saying that you want him to grow up? If that makes sense.
I haven't reached that point yet, My daughter is 7 and cuddles with me on a regular basis. My guess is when ever it is that she stops on here own. My son was still trying to do it into the 6th grade, I stopped him because he was just to big.
haha im 17 and every time i go see my grandpa who is 80 i sit on his lap and tell him everything he has missed since last time i saw him then i give him a kiss on the check and say i love you grandaddy and leave lol
A 6 year old is still a baby. Now when they turn into teenagers, then maybe try to get the child to sit beside you. But 6, that is just sweet.
Whenever the child finds it uncomfortable. If he loves sitting in you lap, why not?
when the child is uncomfortable with it.
I think that when they start middle school, they are too old. Before that, it's fine.
I suppose when he/she hits middleschool.
6 is fine.
7 or 8
Never too old
my son is 17 and still cuddles up best he can on my lap ..Im his MOM..its ok
when it starts to hurt?
I don't think a child can ever get too old to sit on their parent's lap, regardless of gender.When is it too old for a child sit in their opposite sex parent's lap?
Are you really asking this question?
This is kind of one of those questions like making 5 year old children obey the dress codes at church camp, the same ones of sixteen year old ones. He is six, not sixteen. I'd say that like, eight is pushing it. Not allowing him to sit on your lap is kind of saying that you want him to grow up? If that makes sense.
I haven't reached that point yet, My daughter is 7 and cuddles with me on a regular basis. My guess is when ever it is that she stops on here own. My son was still trying to do it into the 6th grade, I stopped him because he was just to big.
haha im 17 and every time i go see my grandpa who is 80 i sit on his lap and tell him everything he has missed since last time i saw him then i give him a kiss on the check and say i love you grandaddy and leave lol
A 6 year old is still a baby. Now when they turn into teenagers, then maybe try to get the child to sit beside you. But 6, that is just sweet.
Whenever the child finds it uncomfortable. If he loves sitting in you lap, why not?
when the child is uncomfortable with it.
I think that when they start middle school, they are too old. Before that, it's fine.
I suppose when he/she hits middleschool.
6 is fine.
7 or 8
Never too old
my son is 17 and still cuddles up best he can on my lap ..Im his MOM..its ok
when it starts to hurt?
Why don't supermarket introduce Foreign parking spaces just in front of the Parent/Toddler and the Disabled.?
Just thought it would enable them park closer to the supermarket door than anyone else while saving the Disabled and Parent/Toddler for people that actually need them.Why don't supermarket introduce Foreign parking spaces just in front of the Parent/Toddler and the Disabled.?
because it isn't needed, unlike the handicapped parking spaces that are neededWhy don't supermarket introduce Foreign parking spaces just in front of the Parent/Toddler and the Disabled.?
Great idea,but also why not get the disabled to get their shopping for them,it will save them learning English and make the disabled fitter or better still get the parents and toddlers to put on a show for them while they have to wait.Super,smashing,fandabidozy.
LOL norty!! I parked in a Mother and Baby spot last night - didn't remember until I got back to the car that baby wasn't with me! So used to parking in them!!
what is a *Foreign parking space* ?
what is a foriegn pariking space???????? why don't you speak english
because people who are foreign should follow he conventions of the country they are in!
Why do they need one. unless they have a baby or some type of handy cap I'm not sure that it would be necessary
because it isn't needed, unlike the handicapped parking spaces that are neededWhy don't supermarket introduce Foreign parking spaces just in front of the Parent/Toddler and the Disabled.?
Great idea,but also why not get the disabled to get their shopping for them,it will save them learning English and make the disabled fitter or better still get the parents and toddlers to put on a show for them while they have to wait.Super,smashing,fandabidozy.
LOL norty!! I parked in a Mother and Baby spot last night - didn't remember until I got back to the car that baby wasn't with me! So used to parking in them!!
what is a *Foreign parking space* ?
what is a foriegn pariking space???????? why don't you speak english
because people who are foreign should follow he conventions of the country they are in!
Why do they need one. unless they have a baby or some type of handy cap I'm not sure that it would be necessary
Why does today's divorce law say that the mother is the better parent?
In what way is the mother the better parent?Why does today's divorce law say that the mother is the better parent?
The woman probably used to be the best parent simply due to the fact that it was her social role to do much more of the parenting than men. These days anything goes, and stressed out working mums are not a safe bet as the better parent. Maybe one day soon the courts will move with the times and be more reasonable in issues involving custody and access.
Edit
Not wanting to put a negative slant on things, but men have often been criticized by feminists for being too much of a threat to children to be the sole parent (this was a view also expressed by my tutor in a gender studies seminar group). However this focuses on sexual abuse of children but totally ignores the fact that women physically abuse children more than men do http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/鈥?/a>
Why do feminists not shout about the abuse of children by women? Pure politics, spin, and hype that is designed to create a general societal prejudice against men and sympathy for women, and these generally accepted views can be drawn upon very powerfully in courtroom situations.Why does today's divorce law say that the mother is the better parent?
The law is written gender neutral. The problem is in sexist judges and anti-male prejudice in the courts, which is rampant.
There used to be a legal standing called the ';tender years doctrine'; that supposed younger children ~ 0-12 did better with and needed the mother more than the father and between ~ 12-18, the father. (They rarely managed to get around to the father custody, by the way).
This incorrect thinking was carried over when the doctrine was eliminated, resulting in exactly the same problem which was that of disallowing fathers as caring and competent parents.
This sexist tripe was replaced with ';better parent';, which for all practical purposes is still the mother, based not on fact, but on continued prejudice. As another poster pointed out, thanks in large part to the sexism of feminism through baseless, falsified and non-existent ';studies';, lies, half-truths and innuendo. (Some feminist groups have ';watch groups'; that oversee judges and are quick to let them know how ';wrong'; they are when they don't favor women).
The truth is, the safest and best place for a child is in the home with mother and father (not father figure); second is father, third is mother only or mother and new boyfriend or husband.
Children are far more likely to be abused and/or neglected in single-mother headed households or in a home with mother and new boyfriend (or husband) who is unrelated to the child.
(61% of all child abuse is committed by biological mothers: Current DHHS report on nationwide Child Abuse)
Children are far more likely to be raised in poverty in the custody of the mother and far less in the custody of the father.
(46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance
20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance
Statistical Source: Technical Analysis Paper No. 42 - U.S. Dept. of Health %26amp; Human Services - Office of Income Security Policy).
Where does it say in American law that the mother is the better parent? Interesting that anti-feminists say that feminists created this myth, when feminists are trying to promote equality, so both parents can get custody. Maybe if anti-feminists fought sexism, instead of feminists, we wouldn't have sexist judges and juries that still believe women are better parents, just because they are female. I don't think either males or females are better parents. But I'm not a judge and I don't appoint judges.
...because the first words that a baby utters is : MaMa.
...because in the whole animal kingdom there is very few species that actually co-raise the offspring.
...because no matter how great a father is he will never, ever have the Maternal Something that mothers provide (granted: not all of them)
...because throught out centuries it was women that stayed home with children, man hardly caring how many and where and with whom they seeded children.
...because of all the abandonded young women that loose their lovers the minute they say: I'm pregnant, it was always a woman's ';problem';.
...because of simple ratio of fmale parents to male parents out there for centuries.
Granted the world has changed and there is more and more fathers that love their children and want to partake in their lives, but I still believe that those fathers are rare and it drives me nuts when a few ';Masculinists'; are trying to change the whole history of motherhood in Courts just because they are not granted custody. I do think that good fathers should have equall rights to raise the children, but don't atack the whole motherhood in the process.
Best intersts of the child of course, determined by wise and scholarly state judges who know what's best; who, thanks to feminist advocacy, conveniently ignore the fact that Department of Human Services studies show that a mother is 50% more likely to abuse and murder the kid(s). The most often used phrase when dealing with these situations is ';err on the side of caution.'; There may not be a specific law that states women are better parents, but existing feminist doctrine seems to suit family law courts well. In contested custody cases mothers ';win'; custody over 85% of the time. Family court also ignores stats that say 7 of 10 juvenile delinquents ( criminals in training) come from single parent homes, the vast majority headed by mothers.
I looked and looked and was unable to find a ';divorce law'; that says ';the mother is the better parent';. If the couple can't come to an agreement about physical custody of the child (legal custody is usually joint) then the courts must intervene:
';Before you reach the point of court intervention to decide custody think long and hard. A custody battle puts the child right smack in the middle of your battle. Why are you fighting for custody? Are you fighting FOR custody or fighting so that your ex-spouse DOESN'T HAVE custody? Is it in the best interest of the child? If you've determined that it's the right thing to do for the children to go forward, what can you expect when the court intervenes?
The court will take into consideration the best interest of the child when making the decision.
IIf the court feels that neither parent is acting in the best interest of the child a guardian ad litem may be appointed to help in making decisions on the behalf of the child.
Depending on the age of the child, their wishes may or may not be taken into consideration. Some states strongly take into consideration the wishes of the child depending on their age; some states do not consider the child's wishes at all, without regard to age.
Traditionally, the judicial system leans towards deciding in favor of the mother in custody cases. However, with more women pursuing full time careers this trend may be changing. It is no longer assumed that the mother is the primary caregiver.
Unless the situation is so obvious that one parent should have custodial rights over the other (such as in drug abuse or physical abuse) a court ordered independent evaluation will probably be ordered. The evaluation is usually done by a court appointed mental health professional such as a psychologist or a social worker. A thorough evaluation can include the following: interviews with all the parties involved (individually and possibly with the parent and child together); psychological testing of both parents and the child; review of school records and or conversations with teachers; review of medical records and developmental history; review of legal records, such as the papers filed regarding the divorce, any possible domestic disputes and any criminal records of either party involved. Be prepared for the evaluation to take at least four to six weeks if not longer. Be prepared for a time consuming and costly battle.
No matter how strongly you believe you would be the better parent and should have custody of the children be prepared for the court to decide against you. Be ready to accept the courts decision and move forward to work with your ex-spouse to raise your children in a way that is best for them.';
This has come about based on endless lies by feminist groups that have spent ernormous resources %26amp; vast amounts of time bashing men and fathers, painting us as abusers and marginalzing women's abuses, despite the fact that single mothers make up the vast majority of child-abusers as proven by repeated studies from unbias sources.
they're better at abusing their children, apparently
Mother's are not automatically the better parent, good parenting skills aren't biologically engineered. However, the the custody laws aren't written in a gendered biased way, either.
Custody laws are about due for a simplification and overhaul. The norm should become 50/50 custody until the child is 18 unless the child brings proceedings to alter the custody arrangement. Abuse and neglect would certainly be taken into account to ensure the child's safety.
It is also time to re-examine the laws concerning child-support because those laws would also have to be changed in accordance with new custody laws. Child support should be kept relatively low for day to day maintenance of the child's needs, while all large expenditures for the child (medical costs, sports related activities, braces, ect.) should be split evenly be each parent.
The inherent simplicity in structure allows for less time and energy to be wasted in family court by everyday families who simply tried to make it work but for whatever reason could not. There will always be more difficult cases where simplicity simply can't cover the circumstances but the majority would be fine.
In cases where either parent has broken the unspoken contract with their child, cases of abuse, neglect, or abandonment than that parent forfeits any rights to that child until and unless that child wishes to see that parent. They should have to pay the maximum amount of support without any of the benefits.
Its time for the law to have an overhaul when it comes to deciding on whom is the better parent. Until my separation from my first wife (who cheated on me) I had practically raised our daughter for 6 years single handedly while my wife partied, lazed around and spent my salary. Only after we separated did she bother with our daughter who now thinks the sun shines out of her rear end! I am currently going through the UK courts to stop my ex wife forcing a residence order which could effectively give her sole custody and prevent me from seeing my daughter again. How can a court decide that she is the better parent, she is a lazy lying cheat and hardly a fitting role model for our daughter who is now 11 years old. I have since re married, have a stable job and home life and two more children, surely it would make sense to decide in my favour? Not according to the man/woman that sits behind a desk and simply decides upon what he/she hears in one day... absolutely ridiculous. I know this doesn't really answer you're question but aaaarrrrggghhh!!!
Thank You Asker.
Peanut: My point exactly... you base your opinions on what I said in a small piece of text. My daughter is also not with her mother, that was your assumption, her mother and I have a joint and equal care so she spends as much time with me as her mother. I love my daughter very much and for that reason alone I will fight to the death via my lawyer (factual without personal attacks or dragging her infidelity into it). And just for information... my daughter knows nothing of what is going on in the background so she is protected from what you you call putting her bang in the middle. I also spend an equal amount of time and give as much care to my children as my wife in my current marriage so your other assumption that my wife is primary care giver is also misguided.
Note: To your second edit Peanut. Because my wife is now pursuing full custody... Line 7 of original posting above. ';I am currently...';
maybe they've found it to be true in the past
because mOther knOws best!!...
She invested so very much more not to mention estrogen.
Today's divorce law doesn't actually SAY that; that's just the way it turns out much of the time. It's offensive to men and it generalizes about women in the worst way.
The laws are set up the way they have been for the past 100 years. Most men do not want custody of their children in divorces so that's why they often go to the mothers. In the 1800s, women and children were considered property so the children automatically went to the fathers. Of course, that didn't stop a lot of men from abandoning their children or farming them out to relatives when they couldn't cope with the stress of caring for them. Perhaps that's one of the major reasons divorce laws were changed.
The mom is not always the better parent. Case #1 - true story in my family. My mom and her new husband were in the kitchen talking they heard crying - mom went up stairs to check on my wee sister who was 2 nigh high to 3 - no cryin from her. They heard it again - her new husband then heard it from the back door - opened the door - there were his 3 kids from his prior marriage - 2 sons and a daughter - she was crying.**What their mom did was coast the car down the driveway - drop them off and coast her way back up the driveway - no one would have been the wiser. Why did she do it? She wanted to please her new man.**Case #2 This guy woke up one morning to find his wife completely moved out leaving him with their 2 kids - she moved in with her boy friend - the one she'd been cheating with.
Real bad when I have to knock my own kind down - no one is free from blame.
The woman probably used to be the best parent simply due to the fact that it was her social role to do much more of the parenting than men. These days anything goes, and stressed out working mums are not a safe bet as the better parent. Maybe one day soon the courts will move with the times and be more reasonable in issues involving custody and access.
Edit
Not wanting to put a negative slant on things, but men have often been criticized by feminists for being too much of a threat to children to be the sole parent (this was a view also expressed by my tutor in a gender studies seminar group). However this focuses on sexual abuse of children but totally ignores the fact that women physically abuse children more than men do http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/鈥?/a>
Why do feminists not shout about the abuse of children by women? Pure politics, spin, and hype that is designed to create a general societal prejudice against men and sympathy for women, and these generally accepted views can be drawn upon very powerfully in courtroom situations.Why does today's divorce law say that the mother is the better parent?
The law is written gender neutral. The problem is in sexist judges and anti-male prejudice in the courts, which is rampant.
There used to be a legal standing called the ';tender years doctrine'; that supposed younger children ~ 0-12 did better with and needed the mother more than the father and between ~ 12-18, the father. (They rarely managed to get around to the father custody, by the way).
This incorrect thinking was carried over when the doctrine was eliminated, resulting in exactly the same problem which was that of disallowing fathers as caring and competent parents.
This sexist tripe was replaced with ';better parent';, which for all practical purposes is still the mother, based not on fact, but on continued prejudice. As another poster pointed out, thanks in large part to the sexism of feminism through baseless, falsified and non-existent ';studies';, lies, half-truths and innuendo. (Some feminist groups have ';watch groups'; that oversee judges and are quick to let them know how ';wrong'; they are when they don't favor women).
The truth is, the safest and best place for a child is in the home with mother and father (not father figure); second is father, third is mother only or mother and new boyfriend or husband.
Children are far more likely to be abused and/or neglected in single-mother headed households or in a home with mother and new boyfriend (or husband) who is unrelated to the child.
(61% of all child abuse is committed by biological mothers: Current DHHS report on nationwide Child Abuse)
Children are far more likely to be raised in poverty in the custody of the mother and far less in the custody of the father.
(46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance
20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance
Statistical Source: Technical Analysis Paper No. 42 - U.S. Dept. of Health %26amp; Human Services - Office of Income Security Policy).
Where does it say in American law that the mother is the better parent? Interesting that anti-feminists say that feminists created this myth, when feminists are trying to promote equality, so both parents can get custody. Maybe if anti-feminists fought sexism, instead of feminists, we wouldn't have sexist judges and juries that still believe women are better parents, just because they are female. I don't think either males or females are better parents. But I'm not a judge and I don't appoint judges.
...because the first words that a baby utters is : MaMa.
...because in the whole animal kingdom there is very few species that actually co-raise the offspring.
...because no matter how great a father is he will never, ever have the Maternal Something that mothers provide (granted: not all of them)
...because throught out centuries it was women that stayed home with children, man hardly caring how many and where and with whom they seeded children.
...because of all the abandonded young women that loose their lovers the minute they say: I'm pregnant, it was always a woman's ';problem';.
...because of simple ratio of fmale parents to male parents out there for centuries.
Granted the world has changed and there is more and more fathers that love their children and want to partake in their lives, but I still believe that those fathers are rare and it drives me nuts when a few ';Masculinists'; are trying to change the whole history of motherhood in Courts just because they are not granted custody. I do think that good fathers should have equall rights to raise the children, but don't atack the whole motherhood in the process.
Best intersts of the child of course, determined by wise and scholarly state judges who know what's best; who, thanks to feminist advocacy, conveniently ignore the fact that Department of Human Services studies show that a mother is 50% more likely to abuse and murder the kid(s). The most often used phrase when dealing with these situations is ';err on the side of caution.'; There may not be a specific law that states women are better parents, but existing feminist doctrine seems to suit family law courts well. In contested custody cases mothers ';win'; custody over 85% of the time. Family court also ignores stats that say 7 of 10 juvenile delinquents ( criminals in training) come from single parent homes, the vast majority headed by mothers.
I looked and looked and was unable to find a ';divorce law'; that says ';the mother is the better parent';. If the couple can't come to an agreement about physical custody of the child (legal custody is usually joint) then the courts must intervene:
';Before you reach the point of court intervention to decide custody think long and hard. A custody battle puts the child right smack in the middle of your battle. Why are you fighting for custody? Are you fighting FOR custody or fighting so that your ex-spouse DOESN'T HAVE custody? Is it in the best interest of the child? If you've determined that it's the right thing to do for the children to go forward, what can you expect when the court intervenes?
The court will take into consideration the best interest of the child when making the decision.
IIf the court feels that neither parent is acting in the best interest of the child a guardian ad litem may be appointed to help in making decisions on the behalf of the child.
Depending on the age of the child, their wishes may or may not be taken into consideration. Some states strongly take into consideration the wishes of the child depending on their age; some states do not consider the child's wishes at all, without regard to age.
Traditionally, the judicial system leans towards deciding in favor of the mother in custody cases. However, with more women pursuing full time careers this trend may be changing. It is no longer assumed that the mother is the primary caregiver.
Unless the situation is so obvious that one parent should have custodial rights over the other (such as in drug abuse or physical abuse) a court ordered independent evaluation will probably be ordered. The evaluation is usually done by a court appointed mental health professional such as a psychologist or a social worker. A thorough evaluation can include the following: interviews with all the parties involved (individually and possibly with the parent and child together); psychological testing of both parents and the child; review of school records and or conversations with teachers; review of medical records and developmental history; review of legal records, such as the papers filed regarding the divorce, any possible domestic disputes and any criminal records of either party involved. Be prepared for the evaluation to take at least four to six weeks if not longer. Be prepared for a time consuming and costly battle.
No matter how strongly you believe you would be the better parent and should have custody of the children be prepared for the court to decide against you. Be ready to accept the courts decision and move forward to work with your ex-spouse to raise your children in a way that is best for them.';
This has come about based on endless lies by feminist groups that have spent ernormous resources %26amp; vast amounts of time bashing men and fathers, painting us as abusers and marginalzing women's abuses, despite the fact that single mothers make up the vast majority of child-abusers as proven by repeated studies from unbias sources.
they're better at abusing their children, apparently
Mother's are not automatically the better parent, good parenting skills aren't biologically engineered. However, the the custody laws aren't written in a gendered biased way, either.
Custody laws are about due for a simplification and overhaul. The norm should become 50/50 custody until the child is 18 unless the child brings proceedings to alter the custody arrangement. Abuse and neglect would certainly be taken into account to ensure the child's safety.
It is also time to re-examine the laws concerning child-support because those laws would also have to be changed in accordance with new custody laws. Child support should be kept relatively low for day to day maintenance of the child's needs, while all large expenditures for the child (medical costs, sports related activities, braces, ect.) should be split evenly be each parent.
The inherent simplicity in structure allows for less time and energy to be wasted in family court by everyday families who simply tried to make it work but for whatever reason could not. There will always be more difficult cases where simplicity simply can't cover the circumstances but the majority would be fine.
In cases where either parent has broken the unspoken contract with their child, cases of abuse, neglect, or abandonment than that parent forfeits any rights to that child until and unless that child wishes to see that parent. They should have to pay the maximum amount of support without any of the benefits.
Its time for the law to have an overhaul when it comes to deciding on whom is the better parent. Until my separation from my first wife (who cheated on me) I had practically raised our daughter for 6 years single handedly while my wife partied, lazed around and spent my salary. Only after we separated did she bother with our daughter who now thinks the sun shines out of her rear end! I am currently going through the UK courts to stop my ex wife forcing a residence order which could effectively give her sole custody and prevent me from seeing my daughter again. How can a court decide that she is the better parent, she is a lazy lying cheat and hardly a fitting role model for our daughter who is now 11 years old. I have since re married, have a stable job and home life and two more children, surely it would make sense to decide in my favour? Not according to the man/woman that sits behind a desk and simply decides upon what he/she hears in one day... absolutely ridiculous. I know this doesn't really answer you're question but aaaarrrrggghhh!!!
Thank You Asker.
Peanut: My point exactly... you base your opinions on what I said in a small piece of text. My daughter is also not with her mother, that was your assumption, her mother and I have a joint and equal care so she spends as much time with me as her mother. I love my daughter very much and for that reason alone I will fight to the death via my lawyer (factual without personal attacks or dragging her infidelity into it). And just for information... my daughter knows nothing of what is going on in the background so she is protected from what you you call putting her bang in the middle. I also spend an equal amount of time and give as much care to my children as my wife in my current marriage so your other assumption that my wife is primary care giver is also misguided.
Note: To your second edit Peanut. Because my wife is now pursuing full custody... Line 7 of original posting above. ';I am currently...';
maybe they've found it to be true in the past
because mOther knOws best!!...
She invested so very much more not to mention estrogen.
Today's divorce law doesn't actually SAY that; that's just the way it turns out much of the time. It's offensive to men and it generalizes about women in the worst way.
The laws are set up the way they have been for the past 100 years. Most men do not want custody of their children in divorces so that's why they often go to the mothers. In the 1800s, women and children were considered property so the children automatically went to the fathers. Of course, that didn't stop a lot of men from abandoning their children or farming them out to relatives when they couldn't cope with the stress of caring for them. Perhaps that's one of the major reasons divorce laws were changed.
The mom is not always the better parent. Case #1 - true story in my family. My mom and her new husband were in the kitchen talking they heard crying - mom went up stairs to check on my wee sister who was 2 nigh high to 3 - no cryin from her. They heard it again - her new husband then heard it from the back door - opened the door - there were his 3 kids from his prior marriage - 2 sons and a daughter - she was crying.**What their mom did was coast the car down the driveway - drop them off and coast her way back up the driveway - no one would have been the wiser. Why did she do it? She wanted to please her new man.**Case #2 This guy woke up one morning to find his wife completely moved out leaving him with their 2 kids - she moved in with her boy friend - the one she'd been cheating with.
Real bad when I have to knock my own kind down - no one is free from blame.
What is the thing you fear(ed) most about becoming a parent?
That I wouldn't do a better job than my parents did.What is the thing you fear(ed) most about becoming a parent?
As ';the kid always picked last'; in sports, I'm very concerned about teaching my boy ';guy stuff';. I want him to learn to be a good sport and lose with dignity but I don't want him to always be a loser. :)
I've been trying to better my skills here and there by going out of my way to be more involved in sports for fun so hopefully I'm ready by the time he's a lot older. (He's only 4 so ';catch'; is about the most difficult thing we do right now..)What is the thing you fear(ed) most about becoming a parent?
I have a 3 year old son and a 9 month old daughter. My fear before i had either of them was that they were going to be 10 times worse then i was. lol But for real i really did not have any worries about being a parent i just worried about the pregnancy. But both my babies are very cute, smart, healthy, and the best things to ever happen to me! ; )
Well, I am not a parent yet, but I would not want a v*jayjay the size of a planet.
And on a serious note, I'm scared of all the responsibility that comes with parenting
if i have a girl for her not to be open with me...i really don't want to see her like some of the girls in my school...but i don't have to worry about that i wont be a parent till im 30...im only 16..
Well retrospectively, I'd say that I am embarrassed by my lack of fear. Because we had four of them, and it is hell. HELL I say. WTF was I thinking, sort of. You know?
CHILDREN!
becoming my mother
That I would fail as a parent.
Forgetting what sleep is!!!
being a good enough mother
the not knowing......of life....and its lessons
that kids would hate me like i hated my parents
losing my kid at an amusement park
that's what my dad did to me..
;)skin care cosmetics
As ';the kid always picked last'; in sports, I'm very concerned about teaching my boy ';guy stuff';. I want him to learn to be a good sport and lose with dignity but I don't want him to always be a loser. :)
I've been trying to better my skills here and there by going out of my way to be more involved in sports for fun so hopefully I'm ready by the time he's a lot older. (He's only 4 so ';catch'; is about the most difficult thing we do right now..)What is the thing you fear(ed) most about becoming a parent?
I have a 3 year old son and a 9 month old daughter. My fear before i had either of them was that they were going to be 10 times worse then i was. lol But for real i really did not have any worries about being a parent i just worried about the pregnancy. But both my babies are very cute, smart, healthy, and the best things to ever happen to me! ; )
Well, I am not a parent yet, but I would not want a v*jayjay the size of a planet.
And on a serious note, I'm scared of all the responsibility that comes with parenting
if i have a girl for her not to be open with me...i really don't want to see her like some of the girls in my school...but i don't have to worry about that i wont be a parent till im 30...im only 16..
Well retrospectively, I'd say that I am embarrassed by my lack of fear. Because we had four of them, and it is hell. HELL I say. WTF was I thinking, sort of. You know?
CHILDREN!
becoming my mother
That I would fail as a parent.
Forgetting what sleep is!!!
being a good enough mother
the not knowing......of life....and its lessons
that kids would hate me like i hated my parents
losing my kid at an amusement park
that's what my dad did to me..
;)
Have you seen any version of the bad seed? How would a parent deal with that child?
In today's modern world?Have you seen any version of the bad seed? How would a parent deal with that child?
I've seen the black and white from the early 60s I think. The problem with the bad seed concept in the movie was that the girl was so manipulative that her mother didn't realize she was a psychopath until it was too late. I think that there's enough info out there now that detection would be much earlier in a child actually afflicted with a lack of empathy.Have you seen any version of the bad seed? How would a parent deal with that child?
I was in a production of The Bad Seed many years ago.
The premise, of course, is that the mother is in denial, so she has no idea her child is ';a bad seed.';
Nowadays, such a child would be considered seriously mentally ill and would be hospitalized.
All the best.
I've seen the black and white from the early 60s I think. The problem with the bad seed concept in the movie was that the girl was so manipulative that her mother didn't realize she was a psychopath until it was too late. I think that there's enough info out there now that detection would be much earlier in a child actually afflicted with a lack of empathy.Have you seen any version of the bad seed? How would a parent deal with that child?
I was in a production of The Bad Seed many years ago.
The premise, of course, is that the mother is in denial, so she has no idea her child is ';a bad seed.';
Nowadays, such a child would be considered seriously mentally ill and would be hospitalized.
All the best.
I need a song about a kid who loves their single parent or something like that. Can you please help me?
I really would like to tell my mom how much I love her. She's a single parent that has raised me my whole life with no father. He disappeared when he found out she was pragnet. I know it's been hard for her but I wanted to give her song about how she's done a wonderful job without him.I need a song about a kid who loves their single parent or something like that. Can you please help me?
';When we're helping we're happy and we sing as we go,'cause we love love to help mother 'cause we lover her so';
you can sing it to any tune but it works for married mom's tooI need a song about a kid who loves their single parent or something like that. Can you please help me?
This is a decent song. Its not about ';single mothers'; per say . . . but it has nothing to do with fathers and is purely about a mother.
Jamie O'Neal - Somebody's Hero
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0CeEEMRQj鈥?/a>
';When we're helping we're happy and we sing as we go,'cause we love love to help mother 'cause we lover her so';
you can sing it to any tune but it works for married mom's tooI need a song about a kid who loves their single parent or something like that. Can you please help me?
This is a decent song. Its not about ';single mothers'; per say . . . but it has nothing to do with fathers and is purely about a mother.
Jamie O'Neal - Somebody's Hero
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0CeEEMRQj鈥?/a>
Is the non-custodial parent who lives out of State,destined to have a distant relationship w their children?
yes unless they move closer to children
Where Can I get Birth Control pills and Condoms for free without Parent Finding out?
Im not Sexual active or anything and dont judge but i just want them just in case.I live in ManhattanWhere Can I get Birth Control pills and Condoms for free without Parent Finding out?
Try Planned Parenthood
here is the site and locator http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/por鈥?/a>
birth control info:http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/por鈥?/a>
and you can just buy condoms at the store (drugstore, etc) They are normally by the pharmacy.
Good for you for being safe, responsible and prepared! =)Where Can I get Birth Control pills and Condoms for free without Parent Finding out?
planned parenthood or there are programs your school may offer.
clinic
Go to your local health department or planned parenthood because my local health department gives away bags of free condoms and gives birth control for free with a check up so I am sure yours will do the same.
all you have to do is go to the health department and they will give you condoms for free no questions asked but birth control pills can only be perscribed by your doc so your parents would have to be there
ask your parents for permision b4 you do something stupid
If ur not sexually active then y do u need them?
There is a planned parenthood clinic in your area and that is where you need/should go to find the information. Also, they do not have to tell your parents.
Whatever you do....avoid planned parenthood!
have your boy friend get them
planned parenthood
there's no possible way to get birth control pills for free, those are prescription drugs, but condoms maybe you can ask for some from friends.
clinic or those planned parenthood places.
why the hell would you need birth control or condoms? just tell him to pull out. :O
Planned parenthood
Planned Parenthood
Id say go to the clinic and see a counselor. They will point you in the right direction.
under your bed
Try your local Health Department. They always give out free condoms and you can find out about birth control options there confidently.
Does Manhattan have more births,more sexually active people? I do not know why you would want something that you do not need? You seem to have made excellent decisions so far why go behind your parents back and cause hurt? We have parents for a reason, it is because we need protection. In our teen years we need that more than ever. Nothing like sex ';just happens'; never.. Someone decided to do it. Waiting till you are an adult gives you time to be better informed to make that choice that can change your whole life. There are places that circumvent parental rights they think they are helping till they have kids of their own. Your parents have the right and the obligation to know what you are doing and that you are safe. So think about it the most popular choices are not necessarily the correct ones. Take care keep ';Doing the Right Thing';
Time gives us all a much better perspective,
Hugs
~A~
PS Long term birth control is not safe for you, and on another note you can get pregnant during your period. In the teen years the body is just getting the rhythm of the hormones regulated that takes the years of your teens. The cycle can be off and you can ovulate at unusual times. I have known of this. I met a young girl who got pregnant before her first period showed! Best advice is wait till you can understand and handle all the responsibility that comes with sex. Protect yourself ~ wait~ O_-
in Manhattan-more than likely-it would be easy. I live in a small town and at a young age-they gave them away. Ask at your school.
I'll send some to you
your local health clinic
find the planned parenthood in your area...
ok you cant get birth control with out going to the doctor in that case you need a parent or someone who has a doctor and insurence condoms got to a regular drug stoe and they should be there and you shlod already know this so obviously you are to young dont through your life away
Planned Parenthood will keep your information confidential regarding birth control.
Condoms aren't that expensive, and can be purchased at any drugstore (with no age limit).
From your doctor, but she'll/he'll probably advice your parents about the transaction.
family planning will provide anything you need and they don't tell your parents. If you are planning on being sexually active visit them first. A condom by its self is not 100% and neither is a diafram. But together they are. It is better if you take the pill.
Put them in the lining of your purse. Just don't forget to take them. Some of the girls have false bottoms in thier purses so family members like snoopy little sisters don't give you away.
Also use the rhythm system count 12-15 days after your period starts. That is your most fertile time, wait til you see someting like snot in your underwear that means you passed the ovum.
Your good to go the rest of the month. Can't get pregnant during your period.
health department but you will have to take an adult there with you
The only place I'm familiar with is Planned Parenthood (www.ppnyc.org). I also live in NYC, and they have three clinics - one each in the Bronx, Manhattan, and Brooklyn. Even though you live in Manhattan, none of them should be more than an hour away (much less, most likely). There probably are other family planning clinics (try searching online). Your parents do not have to and WILL NOT know if you visit Planned Parenthood (or any other clinic).
I'm not sure how old you are or if you have a job, but if you make under a certain amount (something like $18K/year), you're eligible for free services at PP, including exams and birth control (under the Family Planning Benefit Program). Just give PP a call (212 965 7000) to schedule an appointment - they'll ask you a few questions and if you're eligible, tell you what to bring. After that appointment, they'll give you an exam, and you can get your birth control pills the same day (for free if you're elgibile for FPBP)! FPBP will also send you an insurance card in a few weeks, and you can visit any other family planning clinic to get free services after that, not just PP. Even if you don't qualify for FPBP, PP operates on a sliding scale, so if you have low income, you'll get cheaper birth control.
As for condoms, if you're still in school, ask around - you can probably get them for free or a very low price. Many colleges/universities have a health department that offers exams and pills for a low cost like PP.
Go to health professional! It should be free if you have medicare or insurance! but talk to them before going!! Pills are not safe to take for a long time, just a few months!
Try Planned Parenthood
here is the site and locator http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/por鈥?/a>
birth control info:http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/por鈥?/a>
and you can just buy condoms at the store (drugstore, etc) They are normally by the pharmacy.
Good for you for being safe, responsible and prepared! =)Where Can I get Birth Control pills and Condoms for free without Parent Finding out?
planned parenthood or there are programs your school may offer.
clinic
Go to your local health department or planned parenthood because my local health department gives away bags of free condoms and gives birth control for free with a check up so I am sure yours will do the same.
all you have to do is go to the health department and they will give you condoms for free no questions asked but birth control pills can only be perscribed by your doc so your parents would have to be there
ask your parents for permision b4 you do something stupid
If ur not sexually active then y do u need them?
There is a planned parenthood clinic in your area and that is where you need/should go to find the information. Also, they do not have to tell your parents.
Whatever you do....avoid planned parenthood!
have your boy friend get them
planned parenthood
there's no possible way to get birth control pills for free, those are prescription drugs, but condoms maybe you can ask for some from friends.
clinic or those planned parenthood places.
why the hell would you need birth control or condoms? just tell him to pull out. :O
Planned parenthood
Planned Parenthood
Id say go to the clinic and see a counselor. They will point you in the right direction.
under your bed
Try your local Health Department. They always give out free condoms and you can find out about birth control options there confidently.
Does Manhattan have more births,more sexually active people? I do not know why you would want something that you do not need? You seem to have made excellent decisions so far why go behind your parents back and cause hurt? We have parents for a reason, it is because we need protection. In our teen years we need that more than ever. Nothing like sex ';just happens'; never.. Someone decided to do it. Waiting till you are an adult gives you time to be better informed to make that choice that can change your whole life. There are places that circumvent parental rights they think they are helping till they have kids of their own. Your parents have the right and the obligation to know what you are doing and that you are safe. So think about it the most popular choices are not necessarily the correct ones. Take care keep ';Doing the Right Thing';
Time gives us all a much better perspective,
Hugs
~A~
PS Long term birth control is not safe for you, and on another note you can get pregnant during your period. In the teen years the body is just getting the rhythm of the hormones regulated that takes the years of your teens. The cycle can be off and you can ovulate at unusual times. I have known of this. I met a young girl who got pregnant before her first period showed! Best advice is wait till you can understand and handle all the responsibility that comes with sex. Protect yourself ~ wait~ O_-
in Manhattan-more than likely-it would be easy. I live in a small town and at a young age-they gave them away. Ask at your school.
I'll send some to you
your local health clinic
find the planned parenthood in your area...
ok you cant get birth control with out going to the doctor in that case you need a parent or someone who has a doctor and insurence condoms got to a regular drug stoe and they should be there and you shlod already know this so obviously you are to young dont through your life away
Planned Parenthood will keep your information confidential regarding birth control.
Condoms aren't that expensive, and can be purchased at any drugstore (with no age limit).
From your doctor, but she'll/he'll probably advice your parents about the transaction.
family planning will provide anything you need and they don't tell your parents. If you are planning on being sexually active visit them first. A condom by its self is not 100% and neither is a diafram. But together they are. It is better if you take the pill.
Put them in the lining of your purse. Just don't forget to take them. Some of the girls have false bottoms in thier purses so family members like snoopy little sisters don't give you away.
Also use the rhythm system count 12-15 days after your period starts. That is your most fertile time, wait til you see someting like snot in your underwear that means you passed the ovum.
Your good to go the rest of the month. Can't get pregnant during your period.
health department but you will have to take an adult there with you
The only place I'm familiar with is Planned Parenthood (www.ppnyc.org). I also live in NYC, and they have three clinics - one each in the Bronx, Manhattan, and Brooklyn. Even though you live in Manhattan, none of them should be more than an hour away (much less, most likely). There probably are other family planning clinics (try searching online). Your parents do not have to and WILL NOT know if you visit Planned Parenthood (or any other clinic).
I'm not sure how old you are or if you have a job, but if you make under a certain amount (something like $18K/year), you're eligible for free services at PP, including exams and birth control (under the Family Planning Benefit Program). Just give PP a call (212 965 7000) to schedule an appointment - they'll ask you a few questions and if you're eligible, tell you what to bring. After that appointment, they'll give you an exam, and you can get your birth control pills the same day (for free if you're elgibile for FPBP)! FPBP will also send you an insurance card in a few weeks, and you can visit any other family planning clinic to get free services after that, not just PP. Even if you don't qualify for FPBP, PP operates on a sliding scale, so if you have low income, you'll get cheaper birth control.
As for condoms, if you're still in school, ask around - you can probably get them for free or a very low price. Many colleges/universities have a health department that offers exams and pills for a low cost like PP.
Go to health professional! It should be free if you have medicare or insurance! but talk to them before going!! Pills are not safe to take for a long time, just a few months!
Does anyone know what the law is about a minor choosing what parent they get to live with?
What is the age in Texas? Or where can I go to look for additional information. The only lawyer I could get (money wise) was no help.Does anyone know what the law is about a minor choosing what parent they get to live with?
Minors don't get to choose. Decisions of that nature are made based on the legal theory of ';best interests of the child';. However, if she specifically asks the court, they will almost always accede to her wishes unless it specifically violates the best interests standard. For example, he mother is a convicted felon and a crack prostitute while her dad is a normal guy. The court will ignore her when she asks to stay with mom.Does anyone know what the law is about a minor choosing what parent they get to live with?
In most states the legal age a child can choose which parent they want to live with is 13. However at times the judge will take into consideration the wishes of the child if the child is older (8-10) and makes a good case as to why they wish to live with one or the other parent.
Minors don't get to choose. Decisions of that nature are made based on the legal theory of ';best interests of the child';. However, if she specifically asks the court, they will almost always accede to her wishes unless it specifically violates the best interests standard. For example, he mother is a convicted felon and a crack prostitute while her dad is a normal guy. The court will ignore her when she asks to stay with mom.Does anyone know what the law is about a minor choosing what parent they get to live with?
In most states the legal age a child can choose which parent they want to live with is 13. However at times the judge will take into consideration the wishes of the child if the child is older (8-10) and makes a good case as to why they wish to live with one or the other parent.
What are some other parent/kid ';talks'; and under what conditions are they given?
There's the ';sex talk'; (when they catch you in flagrante), the ';shoe talk'; (girls only - when they ruin their first pair of nice shoes), the ';responsible drinking etc. talk'; (when you/they find the stash), the ';people have needs talk'; (when they find your sex toys/porn).
What are some other examples?What are some other parent/kid ';talks'; and under what conditions are they given?
';men are morons'; (when your daughter dates one), ';some women are gold diggers'; (when your son meets one) and ';all dogs go to heaven'; (when you accidentally run over one)What are some other parent/kid ';talks'; and under what conditions are they given?
The 'Daddy, why am I running in circles' talk (after you have nailed one of their feet to the floor);
The 'Child Labour' talk (when they refuse to crawl up the chimney to sweep it properly)
The 'Roof Rack' talk (when they repeated ask 'Daddy are we there yet?'....be sure to wrap them in polythene first to avoid being stopped by the police)
:o)
how about drugs and alcohol? just as important as the sex talk, also about self respect and not being controlled and used by guys, always have high standards and values and resist peer pressure, friends are mostly temporary but family is forever, just a few others.
You've pretty much got it covered Mera...maybe the following?
'...what's up with the crack pipe I found in your sock drawer?...
'...what have you done with my ammo?!...
The all important ';Don't Be Greedy With Your Weed'; talk.
=0) %26lt;//////////////%26gt;'~~~~~~~~~~~
Being true to yourself. When you find out friends are trying to get them to do things not in their natureskin care cosmetics
What are some other examples?What are some other parent/kid ';talks'; and under what conditions are they given?
';men are morons'; (when your daughter dates one), ';some women are gold diggers'; (when your son meets one) and ';all dogs go to heaven'; (when you accidentally run over one)What are some other parent/kid ';talks'; and under what conditions are they given?
The 'Daddy, why am I running in circles' talk (after you have nailed one of their feet to the floor);
The 'Child Labour' talk (when they refuse to crawl up the chimney to sweep it properly)
The 'Roof Rack' talk (when they repeated ask 'Daddy are we there yet?'....be sure to wrap them in polythene first to avoid being stopped by the police)
:o)
how about drugs and alcohol? just as important as the sex talk, also about self respect and not being controlled and used by guys, always have high standards and values and resist peer pressure, friends are mostly temporary but family is forever, just a few others.
You've pretty much got it covered Mera...maybe the following?
'...what's up with the crack pipe I found in your sock drawer?...
'...what have you done with my ammo?!...
The all important ';Don't Be Greedy With Your Weed'; talk.
=0) %26lt;//////////////%26gt;'~~~~~~~~~~~
Being true to yourself. When you find out friends are trying to get them to do things not in their nature
How old were you the last time you ';borrowed'; money from a parent?
:0))How old were you the last time you ';borrowed'; money from a parent?
I was 27. Last year the air conditioning in my car broke and I borrowed $1000 from my mum to get it fixed. She told me not to pay her back so I haven't.How old were you the last time you ';borrowed'; money from a parent?
At least 7 years ago, back when I was 14 and started working, but they have borrowed money from me (many times) and still haven't payed my back. But it's all good, they have done a lot for me.
I'm 16 and I'm still ';borrowing'; money from my parents! :)
im 16
i ';borrow'; money from my parents daily.
lol just yesterday =P
5 hours ago.
It's Saturday yo.
now lol
probably 16 and it was paid back in full.
I was 27. Last year the air conditioning in my car broke and I borrowed $1000 from my mum to get it fixed. She told me not to pay her back so I haven't.How old were you the last time you ';borrowed'; money from a parent?
At least 7 years ago, back when I was 14 and started working, but they have borrowed money from me (many times) and still haven't payed my back. But it's all good, they have done a lot for me.
I'm 16 and I'm still ';borrowing'; money from my parents! :)
im 16
i ';borrow'; money from my parents daily.
lol just yesterday =P
5 hours ago.
It's Saturday yo.
now lol
probably 16 and it was paid back in full.
Do you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
Yes here lately I have felt like a crappy mom. My sons been acting out for some strange reason, and just wont listen to me whatsoever. So I've been on edge for about 5 days now. So I really feel like a bad mom at the moment. I even had to take him to my mothers yesterday so I could have some me time. I don't know why but that always makes me feel like I bad mom, I guess I feel like I can't handle him or something. We all have those moments, were not perfect, and I think it makes it harder on us if we try to be perfect!Do you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
yupp
i have those
like when i just dont have the engery to get up off the couch and paly with him
or i dont change his diaper rite away
or his face is dirty for to long
or i dont wipe the boogers rite away
or becuase hes 9 months old and feeds himself even tho my mom isits i still have to feed him
or when i have to hold him down to change him or give him medicine
yea as u see i have them alotDo you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
I have been having loads of these moments lately.
I know I am *not* a bad parent, because my son is so healthy and clever and strong and happy, but at the same time, I always wonder why effect my behaviour now is going to have on him in the long term.
My younger brother just died tragically, and my son and I are staying at my Mum's, which is 4000 kilometres from 'home' - home is presently my SIL's house, because we are house hunting.
I feel terrible not providing him with a stable environment during these crucial early years, and for unsettling him so often (We had just gotten back into a good routine when all this happened and we had to come home to Mum's) and now he is not sleeping again, is sick from the climate change, and has redeveloped seperation anxiety with a vengenance.
Some days I just cry and I am finding it really hard to pretend I am OK and be a good Mum for my son.
But I'll get through it - I'm a tough cookie :) and so is my beautiful, adapatable, clever little boy.
absolutely! I don't think that you will have a hard time finding fellow mamas that have felt bad about their parenting at one time or another. I am a newly-single mom of a 4 yr old, 2.5 yr old, and due with girl #3 in 8 days, so I feel that I probably feel bad about the way I handle things more often than many moms! I have to keep telling myself that I am doing the very best that I can with what I have. My children are wonderful and I love them with all that I have...it is ME that needs to keep working on ';things'; in order to relate to them better.
Just take a time out from the kids from time to time and reflect on what you can do better next time...it's normal to have insecurities about your parenting skills.
Good luck!
Yep... I just went back to work and there are days where I feel like I just don't give him the attention he needs. I work from home and he sits in the bouncy and we talk the entire time, but I still feel bad that I am not constantly playing with him. I really feel bad when he is playing by himself, even though he is extremely happy playing with his mobile or whatever he is doing at the moment. I know he is happy and thriving when he looks up and grins at me with that big gummy smile. Melts my heart every time :-)
ever mother at some point may feel like they shouldnt have or should have did something different, but it is about staying strong and changing the bad experiences around the next time something happens or period, change the bad thoughts into something postive and see wut can be done better. its natural !!!!!!!
Yes, he's my first so I constantly think I don't know what I am doing but it's really normal which is why everyone and their mama try to give new parents advice:)! It is good when you questions things because it means you really care to do the best for them.
Yes!! Like 1 time,I was at the park with Aaron and I looked away from him for 1 sec. to answer my cell phone and when I looked back,he was gone! So I was running around screaming ';AARON!!'; ';Where is AARON?!'; But then a man said ';s that him?'; And yes it was! There he was under the bench! I felt like a horrible mom!!!
The real question is, 'do you ever feel like a good parent?' Most parents are full of doubt and question themselves. Not to worry, you are as normal as it gets.
Yup. Like now, my poor little one doesn't feel good. She is sleeping. I wish I could make her feel better.
yeah. I loose my cool kind of easily and always feel bad for not being patient enough. I really try though!
yupp
i have those
like when i just dont have the engery to get up off the couch and paly with him
or i dont change his diaper rite away
or his face is dirty for to long
or i dont wipe the boogers rite away
or becuase hes 9 months old and feeds himself even tho my mom isits i still have to feed him
or when i have to hold him down to change him or give him medicine
yea as u see i have them alotDo you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
I have been having loads of these moments lately.
I know I am *not* a bad parent, because my son is so healthy and clever and strong and happy, but at the same time, I always wonder why effect my behaviour now is going to have on him in the long term.
My younger brother just died tragically, and my son and I are staying at my Mum's, which is 4000 kilometres from 'home' - home is presently my SIL's house, because we are house hunting.
I feel terrible not providing him with a stable environment during these crucial early years, and for unsettling him so often (We had just gotten back into a good routine when all this happened and we had to come home to Mum's) and now he is not sleeping again, is sick from the climate change, and has redeveloped seperation anxiety with a vengenance.
Some days I just cry and I am finding it really hard to pretend I am OK and be a good Mum for my son.
But I'll get through it - I'm a tough cookie :) and so is my beautiful, adapatable, clever little boy.
absolutely! I don't think that you will have a hard time finding fellow mamas that have felt bad about their parenting at one time or another. I am a newly-single mom of a 4 yr old, 2.5 yr old, and due with girl #3 in 8 days, so I feel that I probably feel bad about the way I handle things more often than many moms! I have to keep telling myself that I am doing the very best that I can with what I have. My children are wonderful and I love them with all that I have...it is ME that needs to keep working on ';things'; in order to relate to them better.
Just take a time out from the kids from time to time and reflect on what you can do better next time...it's normal to have insecurities about your parenting skills.
Good luck!
Yep... I just went back to work and there are days where I feel like I just don't give him the attention he needs. I work from home and he sits in the bouncy and we talk the entire time, but I still feel bad that I am not constantly playing with him. I really feel bad when he is playing by himself, even though he is extremely happy playing with his mobile or whatever he is doing at the moment. I know he is happy and thriving when he looks up and grins at me with that big gummy smile. Melts my heart every time :-)
ever mother at some point may feel like they shouldnt have or should have did something different, but it is about staying strong and changing the bad experiences around the next time something happens or period, change the bad thoughts into something postive and see wut can be done better. its natural !!!!!!!
Yes, he's my first so I constantly think I don't know what I am doing but it's really normal which is why everyone and their mama try to give new parents advice:)! It is good when you questions things because it means you really care to do the best for them.
Yes!! Like 1 time,I was at the park with Aaron and I looked away from him for 1 sec. to answer my cell phone and when I looked back,he was gone! So I was running around screaming ';AARON!!'; ';Where is AARON?!'; But then a man said ';s that him?'; And yes it was! There he was under the bench! I felt like a horrible mom!!!
The real question is, 'do you ever feel like a good parent?' Most parents are full of doubt and question themselves. Not to worry, you are as normal as it gets.
Yup. Like now, my poor little one doesn't feel good. She is sleeping. I wish I could make her feel better.
yeah. I loose my cool kind of easily and always feel bad for not being patient enough. I really try though!
Can maybe a wise parent or someone a teenager maybe give me some advice?
This summer has been kind of hard. I lost my best friend in the stupidest fight last year and we havent talked since. My new best friend you know can never kind of own up to all the stuff and grteat advice and the just that aura of my old best friend. This new ones always complaining telling me how ive changed and giving me heck about it. heres the message i got on an instant message,
Her (blocked out screen name) (4:02:29 PM): oh and did i forgot did i tell u that i went shopping? and i didnt even have to go to AE AERO HCO or any of those places to get COOL stuff i went to otehr places in the mall and got waaaay cuter stuff. it kinda seems like uve changed... becuz like ur icon... dells, camping, potatoes,clothes, summer 08 and then in ur away message ur like OMG U HAVE TO READ THIS and then u put ------------------xox--------------- and then ur all like if u havent had one ur missing out. i mean ur talking waaay different than u used to. idk.
I just dont know what she wants. CAn any of you give me advice to get my this or anything? im going to 7th grade adn thdres alredy been so much friend fighting in this group im in with this girl adn im not sure if i can take it.Can maybe a wise parent or someone a teenager maybe give me some advice?
Just talk to her about it, and if she wants to ditch you, let her. This will happen all through life. And it gets way worse in High School so get used to it. Just make new friends that truly care about you and want to be around you. Good luck. =]Can maybe a wise parent or someone a teenager maybe give me some advice?
Middle school drama.
Everyone is going to act like trough high school.
Just dont let it bring you down.
Let her do what she thinks its ';cool';
she'll learn later.
She'll end up having no friends, then want you back.
Its all how it ALL goes in middle school.
good luck.
Her (blocked out screen name) (4:02:29 PM): oh and did i forgot did i tell u that i went shopping? and i didnt even have to go to AE AERO HCO or any of those places to get COOL stuff i went to otehr places in the mall and got waaaay cuter stuff. it kinda seems like uve changed... becuz like ur icon... dells, camping, potatoes,clothes, summer 08 and then in ur away message ur like OMG U HAVE TO READ THIS and then u put ------------------xox--------------- and then ur all like if u havent had one ur missing out. i mean ur talking waaay different than u used to. idk.
I just dont know what she wants. CAn any of you give me advice to get my this or anything? im going to 7th grade adn thdres alredy been so much friend fighting in this group im in with this girl adn im not sure if i can take it.Can maybe a wise parent or someone a teenager maybe give me some advice?
Just talk to her about it, and if she wants to ditch you, let her. This will happen all through life. And it gets way worse in High School so get used to it. Just make new friends that truly care about you and want to be around you. Good luck. =]Can maybe a wise parent or someone a teenager maybe give me some advice?
Middle school drama.
Everyone is going to act like trough high school.
Just dont let it bring you down.
Let her do what she thinks its ';cool';
she'll learn later.
She'll end up having no friends, then want you back.
Its all how it ALL goes in middle school.
good luck.
Do you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
Yes here lately I have felt like a crappy mom. My sons been acting out for some strange reason, and just wont listen to me whatsoever. So I've been on edge for about 5 days now. So I really feel like a bad mom at the moment. I even had to take him to my mothers yesterday so I could have some me time. I don't know why but that always makes me feel like I bad mom, I guess I feel like I can't handle him or something. We all have those moments, were not perfect, and I think it makes it harder on us if we try to be perfect!Do you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
yupp
i have those
like when i just dont have the engery to get up off the couch and paly with him
or i dont change his diaper rite away
or his face is dirty for to long
or i dont wipe the boogers rite away
or becuase hes 9 months old and feeds himself even tho my mom isits i still have to feed him
or when i have to hold him down to change him or give him medicine
yea as u see i have them alotDo you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
I have been having loads of these moments lately.
I know I am *not* a bad parent, because my son is so healthy and clever and strong and happy, but at the same time, I always wonder why effect my behaviour now is going to have on him in the long term.
My younger brother just died tragically, and my son and I are staying at my Mum's, which is 4000 kilometres from 'home' - home is presently my SIL's house, because we are house hunting.
I feel terrible not providing him with a stable environment during these crucial early years, and for unsettling him so often (We had just gotten back into a good routine when all this happened and we had to come home to Mum's) and now he is not sleeping again, is sick from the climate change, and has redeveloped seperation anxiety with a vengenance.
Some days I just cry and I am finding it really hard to pretend I am OK and be a good Mum for my son.
But I'll get through it - I'm a tough cookie :) and so is my beautiful, adapatable, clever little boy.
absolutely! I don't think that you will have a hard time finding fellow mamas that have felt bad about their parenting at one time or another. I am a newly-single mom of a 4 yr old, 2.5 yr old, and due with girl #3 in 8 days, so I feel that I probably feel bad about the way I handle things more often than many moms! I have to keep telling myself that I am doing the very best that I can with what I have. My children are wonderful and I love them with all that I have...it is ME that needs to keep working on ';things'; in order to relate to them better.
Just take a time out from the kids from time to time and reflect on what you can do better next time...it's normal to have insecurities about your parenting skills.
Good luck!
Yep... I just went back to work and there are days where I feel like I just don't give him the attention he needs. I work from home and he sits in the bouncy and we talk the entire time, but I still feel bad that I am not constantly playing with him. I really feel bad when he is playing by himself, even though he is extremely happy playing with his mobile or whatever he is doing at the moment. I know he is happy and thriving when he looks up and grins at me with that big gummy smile. Melts my heart every time :-)
ever mother at some point may feel like they shouldnt have or should have did something different, but it is about staying strong and changing the bad experiences around the next time something happens or period, change the bad thoughts into something postive and see wut can be done better. its natural !!!!!!!
Yes, he's my first so I constantly think I don't know what I am doing but it's really normal which is why everyone and their mama try to give new parents advice:)! It is good when you questions things because it means you really care to do the best for them.
Yes!! Like 1 time,I was at the park with Aaron and I looked away from him for 1 sec. to answer my cell phone and when I looked back,he was gone! So I was running around screaming ';AARON!!'; ';Where is AARON?!'; But then a man said ';s that him?'; And yes it was! There he was under the bench! I felt like a horrible mom!!!
The real question is, 'do you ever feel like a good parent?' Most parents are full of doubt and question themselves. Not to worry, you are as normal as it gets.
Yup. Like now, my poor little one doesn't feel good. She is sleeping. I wish I could make her feel better.
yeah. I loose my cool kind of easily and always feel bad for not being patient enough. I really try though!
yupp
i have those
like when i just dont have the engery to get up off the couch and paly with him
or i dont change his diaper rite away
or his face is dirty for to long
or i dont wipe the boogers rite away
or becuase hes 9 months old and feeds himself even tho my mom isits i still have to feed him
or when i have to hold him down to change him or give him medicine
yea as u see i have them alotDo you ever have times when you feel like a bad parent?
I have been having loads of these moments lately.
I know I am *not* a bad parent, because my son is so healthy and clever and strong and happy, but at the same time, I always wonder why effect my behaviour now is going to have on him in the long term.
My younger brother just died tragically, and my son and I are staying at my Mum's, which is 4000 kilometres from 'home' - home is presently my SIL's house, because we are house hunting.
I feel terrible not providing him with a stable environment during these crucial early years, and for unsettling him so often (We had just gotten back into a good routine when all this happened and we had to come home to Mum's) and now he is not sleeping again, is sick from the climate change, and has redeveloped seperation anxiety with a vengenance.
Some days I just cry and I am finding it really hard to pretend I am OK and be a good Mum for my son.
But I'll get through it - I'm a tough cookie :) and so is my beautiful, adapatable, clever little boy.
absolutely! I don't think that you will have a hard time finding fellow mamas that have felt bad about their parenting at one time or another. I am a newly-single mom of a 4 yr old, 2.5 yr old, and due with girl #3 in 8 days, so I feel that I probably feel bad about the way I handle things more often than many moms! I have to keep telling myself that I am doing the very best that I can with what I have. My children are wonderful and I love them with all that I have...it is ME that needs to keep working on ';things'; in order to relate to them better.
Just take a time out from the kids from time to time and reflect on what you can do better next time...it's normal to have insecurities about your parenting skills.
Good luck!
Yep... I just went back to work and there are days where I feel like I just don't give him the attention he needs. I work from home and he sits in the bouncy and we talk the entire time, but I still feel bad that I am not constantly playing with him. I really feel bad when he is playing by himself, even though he is extremely happy playing with his mobile or whatever he is doing at the moment. I know he is happy and thriving when he looks up and grins at me with that big gummy smile. Melts my heart every time :-)
ever mother at some point may feel like they shouldnt have or should have did something different, but it is about staying strong and changing the bad experiences around the next time something happens or period, change the bad thoughts into something postive and see wut can be done better. its natural !!!!!!!
Yes, he's my first so I constantly think I don't know what I am doing but it's really normal which is why everyone and their mama try to give new parents advice:)! It is good when you questions things because it means you really care to do the best for them.
Yes!! Like 1 time,I was at the park with Aaron and I looked away from him for 1 sec. to answer my cell phone and when I looked back,he was gone! So I was running around screaming ';AARON!!'; ';Where is AARON?!'; But then a man said ';s that him?'; And yes it was! There he was under the bench! I felt like a horrible mom!!!
The real question is, 'do you ever feel like a good parent?' Most parents are full of doubt and question themselves. Not to worry, you are as normal as it gets.
Yup. Like now, my poor little one doesn't feel good. She is sleeping. I wish I could make her feel better.
yeah. I loose my cool kind of easily and always feel bad for not being patient enough. I really try though!
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