The effect of the death of a parent at an early age?

My father died when I was 2. It seems like it changed me. Even my mother says that my personality seemed to do a 180 after his death. Not only that but every seven years an important male in my family died. 2 my father, 9 my maternal grandmother, 16, the most recent, my paternal grandfather. I feel like a basket case most of the time and fundamentally different from my classmates, and I don't think people realize how important my paternal grandfather was to me. Any thoughts and theory's appreciated.The effect of the death of a parent at an early age?
I feel for you.


My dad single handily raise all 6 of my sisters and I and when he passed away at age 11 I changed. Dealing with death is one of the hardest things to get past. It has been about 13 years now since my dad died and I still cry. I think a therapist may help. Not a psychologist, but therapy. It is good to have someone to talk to that doesn't know you like family and friends do. They can help you to grieve and deal with your feelings. I know that for me at least it has helped. I just wish I would have started seeing someone earlier. My family did send me to therapy after my dad died, but it just wasn't the time for me. I went to see a lot of different ones through out my youth and I didn't really appreciate a good therapist until last year. Now I am dealing with a lot of the issues that are associated with the death of my dad and then my grandfather (he passed away when I was 15, my oldest sister Nicci and I took care of him, we are the only two out of the six sisters that can speak Romanian because we spent so much time with him, so that was hard for me too).


I hope only the best for you, and just remember, nobody knows how you feel unless you express it to them. Also if you feel like someone is not being sympathetic, just stop confiding in them.


Best wishes.


xoxoThe effect of the death of a parent at an early age?
My father died when I was nine and I think I have spent my life afraid because of the uncertainty I went through during his illness. Talk to someone about your feelings and see what you can do to work through them.