Not at all! I'm 21 and a single parent and I'm not in the least bit ashamed of myself. You only need to be ashamed if you're a bad parent, and circumstances like marital situation doesn't affect your parenting skills! Be a good mother to your child and whether you're single or with someone, you have every reason to be proud, ALL [good] mothers do wonderful jobs whether they're single or otherwise! Just remember to face your future with a positive attitude. If your partner does leave you, then so be it and you'll have to deal with that at the time (and you will cope - I'm a walking bag of anxiety and depression certified and I get along by myself just fine!), but don't cross that bridge unless you come to it, and don't upset yourself over something that may never happen!If you're a single parent over 21, is that something to be ashamed of?
My situation is similar to yours. People see me as a very picky or judgmental woman (when I'm really not) for not having a boyfriend that I should get off my high horse. When I meet a guy I like, I'm always careful to watch my back and find out if he's the one for me. In the past, I met many guys that chose not to date me or get in a serious relationship with me after I opened up to them about myself (who I am, my disability, and my problems) because they knew they couldn't handle my situation or they wouldn't have the patience/love to deal/help me with my problems as they would consider me a burden.
Here's my advice:
Find someone who loves and accepts you for who you are including your flaws and problems (like disability, anxiety, depression, etc). When you start dating a man, find out if he's the one for you. He needs to be someone who's willing to deal and help you with your problems. Learn more about him, what his values are, and what qualities he has. Make sure he shares the same values as yours. Be honest to him about yourself; be opened to him. If he leaves or if he isn't okay with the situation you're in, then it's his loss/problem. It's better to know him completely (like all the real and bad sides) before getting into a serous relationship. Make sure he's honest about himself because many men would lie just to ignore the problems or to screw you over (like getting in your pants). Examine and analyze his values and qualities in a guy as you need to find out if he's for real. Write out what he has that you want in a guy and what he's missing. Then see if he's worthy to be in a relationship with and have children with. Don't lower your expectations. Make sure he reaches all your expectations on what kind of person he should be regardless how much money he has or what materialistic things he can offer. If he doesn't treat you well or if he becomes abusive in any way, leave him.
If you ever become a single parent, there's nothing to be ashamed of and there isn't anything wrong with it as long as you're a good parent. The important thing is you do the best on raising your children.
I hate how harsh society is on single moms by labeling them negatively without knowing their situation or circumstances. Many ignorant and bigots out there see them as s!uts or women that can't keep/have a long lasting relationship with a man. Many women didn't choose to be single moms, but it just happened because they had to leave their partners (boyfriends, fiances, or husbands) that were abusive, deadbeat, or not right for them. In a relationship, many people hide their true colors from their partners until later.
being a single parent is nothing to be ashamed of at ANY age sweetie. when you find the right guy he will accept you for who you are and love everything about you and be able to cope with your anxiety and depression. he will also help you through it. i , too, have anxiety problems so i know that me telling you not to worry about it now wont help you at all. but im going to say it anyways. anyone that truely loves you wouldnt leave you because of that. take care hun =]
its not something to be ashamed of. One happy parent is better than two miserable parents. If he loves you he wont leave you. F***k him. If he doesnt want to be with you because of that reason then leave him!
Im sure you will be a great momma.
its nothing to be ashamed of at all. my sister had her daughter at 22 and her partner left her because of it. my niece is now 6 years old. my sister loves her daughter unconditionally.
No. My daughter is 19 and she is about to be a parent for the first time. Its not something to be ashamed of.
Never, I believe that you should believe in whatever you do is your best work, live your life to the fullest =]
Don't let anyone bring you down !
No its not something to be ashamed of girl but i have 1 good advice for you. Live the life to the fullest :]
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