How do i be a good parent?

I want to be a good mother, but i don't know how to socialize well. I don't want my kids to be like me. I want them to have self esteem and self respect - yet be social whiz. Protect themselves emotionally and physically and yet have friends- please advice i have 2 kids 4 and 1.5. I am very nervous- i hope i am not raising another looser like meHow do i be a good parent?
I know being a parent can be a very scary thing, parents always feel that if the kid is a screw up then its all their fault. But there is no such thing as a perfect parent. The best things you can do as a parent is to always support them in any decision they make, let them be able to express themselves, and let them make their own mistakes. You have to be their friend. The worst thing a parent can do, is wreck a relationship between them and their children. Dont try to change them or make them how you want them to be. And if your scared they wont have social skills, then encourage them to invite friends over the house. It will all work out fine. Dont worry.How do i be a good parent?
Change your attitude about yourself and your life because children model and imitate adults around them. If you want them to be more social, let them interact with different people.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You aren't a loser because you aren't that social. It is just your personality. It's part of what makes you you. I have always been a very shy person. I mean, I am fine with people I know, but put me in a room with a bunch or moms I don't know or something like that, and I will just stand there. Even if you are shy, that doesn't mean your kids will turn out that way. My daughter was very very shy. Even family that she didn't see on a regular basis, she wouldn't talk to. When she started school, it did wonders for her. She has more friends now then she can count. You might try putting your older one in a team sport like soccer or something. If you have one of those kid gyms like My Gym around you, you might join something like that with your younger child. All you can do is encourage them to make friends and put them in environments where they can do that. But, if they do turn out to be shy, don't sweat it. I've always been that way. It's just the way I am, and there isn't anything wrong with it. Best of luck.
First of all, you're not a loser! You don't have a lot of self-esteem, tho. Have you considered trying counseling for yourself? You could be depressed. Maybe joining a play group like MOPS (Moms of pre-schoolers) would help you to realize other moms out there feel the same way you do.
Just don't keep them isolated. I am like you, but my daughter is nothing like me! Ever since she was little, she would pretty much go with the flow and go to anybody and everybody. She's the kind of kid who will say ';hi'; to anyone we pass in the store, whereas I keep more to myself. I think it's been helpful that she's always been around other people. When I was younger, I stayed home with my mom, and we didn't see other family often. My mom says I would cry and scream if she tried passing me off to someone else! We live close to my family, so my daughter is used to being around them. Also, she goes to a regular sitter who has kids of her own, and the sitter also sometimes has friends over at her house who also have young kids. So my daughter has been in plenty of social situations already, and seems to do quite well. Even once your kids are in school, they may make friends and become sociable on their own. There's no way to tell what they will be like as they grow up. But you can't blame yourself, it's nothing you can totally control. Just try not to discourage them if they do happen to be little social butterflies. Just because you aren't comfortable like that, don't hold them back too much. Just do your part to teach them to be responsible for themselves, without giving up the social part of it.
First off just because you don't socialize well doesnt mean you are a loser. Different people act differently in life. As far as socializing your children I would get them involved in activitites with there peers. There are plenty of community groups and activites for young children. I dont think anybody can tell you how to parent your children ';the right way';