How can I help my mother understand that she's been a terrible parent for the past 45 years?

She might need to help you understand you've been a terrible kid/man for 45 years.





You know, most people get over blaming their parents for all their problems before they're 45 years old. Get professional help.How can I help my mother understand that she's been a terrible parent for the past 45 years?
Well, she would be over 60 now, if some ingrate kid of mine told me now (I am 61) I had been a terrible parent for 45 years, I would change my will.


You have had at least 25 years to broach the subject, and if it wasn't important enough to bring up before, you should make like a pair of trousers and stay zipped.


You only have 1 mother, and if you offend her now that she is a senior citizen, you likely have no way of ever making it right.How can I help my mother understand that she's been a terrible parent for the past 45 years?
If she doesn't know that already then I doubt if you could say or do anything that could make her see it. She just won't get it. It is easier to accept her the way she is. I have learned to accept people, even like them for what they are. If you feel that she has been a terrible mother then you don't need her or anyone else to agree with you to confirm it. You have to believe that you have a right to feel that way with out anyone elses approval or agreement. No one is going to ';win'; in a situation like this. No one is going to come along and say ';you are right and she is wrong'; or vice versa. You just have to decide what you want to do and don't feel guilty about your decisions.
Why does she need to understand this? Honor your parents...even if they weren't the best. Parents are just human also. Forgive and forget. Move on. If you don't want a relationship, then leave it be. IF you want a relationship, I wouldn't think it'd be helpful to rub her nose it in. Talk to someone in private about the issues you are having. Unless the past is realistically affecting your life now, leave it in the past.
What's the point? You should be a man by now and should stop trying to blame your Mom for any failures in your life. That is what it's all about. We don't get to choose our parents. Some get better ones than others. Just move on. Otherwise this grudge just drags you down. Maybe she didn't have a very good mother herself and didn't know how to be a better one.
Why should she need to understand that? You've been in charge of your own life since you were 18. What purpose does it serve to bother her with it now? Does it make you feel better to belittle her?
Tell her. Get it all off your chest. Then forgive her. She may or may not understand but that is not important.
Maybe you could both go to counseling together; sounds like you might need to understand how hard it was to parent YOU!
well if you really want to drive this point home, stop talking to her