This poem always summed it up for me...
';Just for Today';
Just for this morning,
I am going to smile when I see your face...
and laugh when I feel like crying.
Just for this morning,
I will let you wake up softly in your flannel p.j.'s...
and hold you until you are ready to stir.
Just for this morning,
I will let you choose what you want to wear...
and I will say how beautiful you are.
Just for this morning,
I will step over the laundry to pick you up...
and take you to the park to play
Just for this morning,
I will leave the dishes in the sink...
and let you teach me how to put your puzzle together.
Just for this afternoon,
I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off...
and sit with you in the garden
blowing bubbles.
Just for this afternoon,
I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you
scream and whine for the ice cream truck...
and I will buy you one, if he comes by.
Just for this afternoon,
I won't worry about what you are going to be
when you grow up...
I will simply love you for the joy you bring me
Just for this afternoon,
I will let you help me make cookies...
and I wont stand over you . . . trying to 'fix things.'
Just for this afternoon,
I will take you to McDonald's and buy us both a 'Happy Meal'...
so you can have two toys.
Just for this evening,
I will hold you in my arms and tell you the story of how you
were born...
and how much we love you.
Just for this evening,
I will let you splash in the bathtub...
and I won't get angry when you pour water over your sister's
head.
Just for this evening,
I will let you stay up late...
while we sit on the porch swing
and count all the stars.
Just for this evening,
I will bring you glasses of water...
and snuggle beside you for hours...
and miss my favorite t.v. show.
And tonight when you are sleeping safe and warm in your bed,
I will think of the mothers and fathers
who mourn for the children they have lost.
I will remember the parents who sit by hospital beds,
watching over the little ones they love.
I will weep for those parents whose children are cold,
hungry and suffering,
and .... this evening,
when I kneel down to pray,
I will simply be grateful for all that I have
and not ask for anything...
except just one more day.How has becoming a parent or expecting changed your life?
yes!!im expecting and my boyfriend is sadly not here to experience the pregnancy with me. we were both very upset at first and now are more excited than ever since hell be home in time for his son!!!it has really changed and matured the both of us in many many ways!!!we both came to realize we could not goof off anymore and we had to take full responsibility for our child..we want him to have everything we didnt and more..
Being a parent has made realize the joy of life. Having a kids is great, hard work, but I'd do it again in heartbeat. It's made me grow up alot.You dont think that you can care so much about someone until you have a child.
it didnt really i still have a lot of myold freind i jsut dont see them as much, i dont drink as much but i still enjoy friday night drinks wiht friends at my palce instead of theres, we do a few more family thing like going to parks and such but ti works really for us, i think it all depends on how you feel and right for you guys
Here is life for me so far with my 5 month old:
worst:
i'm breastfeeding, so these examples go under this criteria:
1. no alcohol (too much of a hassle to pump and dump
2. no dairy products (she has a protein intolerance--but i'm losing a lot of weight
3. no being away from my baby for more than 3 hours (takes too much to pump)
here are some others:
1. stretch marks!!!!!!!
2. loose flesh right around the mid-section--my bikini days are over
3. don't remember what it's like to have a full nights sleep
4. constant worry: i still peek in at her in the middle of the night to make sure she's still breathing
here are great moments:
1. she says ';momma';
2. her beautiful smile
3. the cute little tush
basically, i am in love with this child. people talk about the love you feel for someone who's only minutes old, but its instantaneous. i look forward to every milestone...even when she's crawling and getting into everything. you basically grow up, or would hope to, because now here is someone totally dependent on you and its the most beautiful feeling in the world!
Honestly, my first kid made me feel like I was in a black hole. I thought that I had made the worst decision of my life and that I would never be happy again. Luckily that ended after a couple of months (post pardom) and I have loved being a mom ever since.
Having kids has made me less selfish, less needy, more able to understand others, there are always decent snacks in the cupboards, and I always have an excuse for being late, but it has also made more tired, more cluttered, I have a lot less free time and I don't get to do what I want usually with the free time I do have. My life is ruled by someone who doesn't quite understand that money doesn't grow on trees; and even though they are the cutest things in the world, I still want to beat them senseless on occasion (or perhaps regularly).
I think the things that somes up my experience with kids is that when Christmas comes around, I don't care one whit about what I get or even if I get anything. All I care about is seeing the looks on my kids faces on christmas morning. I think you know that parenthood has truly changed when you can say that.
What I am now looking forward to is grandkids. All the fun without all the work!
Well, besides the obvious things like money, time, and social outings with people my age there is one thing I can tell you that you may find insightful.
You never know unconditional love until you have a child. You can think that you do, but you really don't.
You know how you hear people say, ';I'd die for you'; or you may have even said or thought it yourself. You have to ask yourself though, Would you?? Would you REALLY die for someone else?? When I had my first child, my love for that child brought that question up in my mind. I know without a doubt that if some wild thing happened and I was forced to give my life to save my one of my children, I would do it without a second thought. I would not be scared no matter how I would have to die. If someone said I had to go out to the railroad tracks and stand in front of the 4 o'clock train, I'd be there at 2 to make sure it hit me.
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