What is more important: a happy mother or a two parent home?

I married my husband when he was 30 and I was 19. We started out with resentment already forming and have had a bumpy ride ever since. In 2002 we had our son. In 2003, I couldn't handle it anymore and left. While we were separated, I met someone who I believe is 'the one' but due to a complex situation we can't be together. My thought then is: Whoever I decide to be with, I'm just going to be settling. So I figured 'why not settle for the father of my son?' So we have gotten back together. Now I am extremely unhappy. I worry about the effect this has on my son. Which do you think is more damaging: An extremely unhappy mother which causes a lot of tension in the home or having his father leave the home a second time?What is more important: a happy mother or a two parent home?
i don't believe in staying together for the kids. that is a baaaaad idea. all you will do is fight and the tension is not good for the kids. they know how life is, they know that people will get over it. your son will be much happier if he knows that he has two parents that will support him if they aren't together rather than two parents worried about themselves if they are together. your son should come first in your life. no ifs, ands, or buts. do what you think will be more beneficial to him in the future.What is more important: a happy mother or a two parent home?
A child is more concerned that he has two decent parents. If the relationship isn't perfect, the child doesn't suddenly want it to end. You married your child's father for better OR worse, not until you find something better. Unless the relationship is physically abusive, the best thing for the child is for you to stick it out.
ooh, that's tough. Kids are affected by their parents horrible marriages when they stay together also. but is it horrible or can you ';act'; for the sake of the child? I don't know how bad an affect on your son it will be to split up again. I know my bf went through this, his son is 9 and they put him in therapy to deal.
both are important
An extremely unhappy mother will have more effect on a child than a dad leaving him.
A happy mother is more important...
As long as you explain to your son the reason his father is leaving, I feel that


you should do what makes you happy. Plenty of children grow up stable and happy in a one parent home.
i guess it is important, both of them. if u r not happy there isn't anyway u'll make ur son happy, but two parents at home it's good for the child's education and future too. maybe u can try to see what's wrong wiht ur marriage then u can fix it, otherwise u know what u have to do, u can not stay in this marriage if u r not happy or ur life would sux.


good luck with that.
both are important, if there are two parent great..and if you have a single mom who is the best then thats great too
you don't want what you have and until you start wanting what you have you well be unhappy .making the child put up with his moms meanness to the child's dad is wrong .
I dont see why your husband should be leaving. It sounds like you are the one with the issues of being unhappy. You should leave but leave your son with the husband because you sound very immature and unstable. The child is the most important whether it be a one parent or two parent home.
first of all i'm just going to saylook at the age difference. he's going to be that way because he sees you not only as his wife but as he's raising you all over agian. you should be a happy mother if it comes to it. be a wife when it comes to it. don't abandon you martial position but then there's a time when you got to get away. it's not that you're unhappy with this other person but it's that you're not ready to trust your heart right now. explain yourself to this other person and if he don't understand then move on.as for the child right now he do understand what's going on but you can help hime understand that you need to be happy asl well as the environement. another thing clear the tension out of the room. give hiim a chance to appreciate you and your child. spend more time together.
dear heart, even though i was never married and still ended up with a 2 year old son. i decided that being temporarily unhappy and lonely is definately less damaging than having a father making the home more tense. i say that being unhappy and lonely is temporary because you can change that by just spending time with your son...i do. whenever i feel down i look into his eyes and watch him play and i instantly feel so much better, along with praying of course. but resentment stemming from your relationship with your husband can inadvertantly be transferred to your son and i know you don't want that to happen. so tell your husband to step and look for the divorce papers in the mail!!!
you need to be true to yourself it sounds like maybe you need to be by yourself you got in a relationship so young then after your happy then your son will be happy in the long run