The Block Parent programme appears to be supported by many but there is no information or statistics which support that the programme is even successful in protecting our children. How many children have benefited from the programme? Do children even use it? Has there been any issues when and if a child did use it?Statistically, is the the Block Parent Program a success?
No, idea.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
married- anybody else know anything on the subject- I'm sure there has to be some kind of loophole aka ';waiver'; to this new policy. I understand the need for it because 9 out of 10 single mothers are always late, trying to get out of, or not going to work but I was and would be again a good soldier even being a single parent.I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
its true you cant go back to active duty as a single parent (ref AR 601-210 chapter 2). however you do qualify for the ARMY reserves, as long as you have a good family care plan in place.
your recruiter is essentially right.I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
You do not have to be married. However, during any basic training and tech school, you will have to sign gaurdianship of your children over to someone else (usually a grandparent or a non-custodial parent). You can have it done in a way that gaurdianship will then be returned to you after you complete your training and are sent to your first duty station. BUT you will always have to have a family care plan in place. Basically, this is a plan detailing who would take and care for your children in the event of a deployment or being stationed in a place that does not allow family members to accompany (Korea is the best known of these). You will also have to have complete child care plans, including having child care to cover for any schedule (since many fields work 12 hour schedules or are in sections that run 24/7). Many single parents are serving in the armed forces and are doing so in an exemplery manner, but it does take a lot more planning and effort than it might take if you were married. Be sure that you have the support you will need if you need it before you enlist, otherwise you may find yourself in a very tight spot.
The Army National Guard seems to be the only branch that will consider single parents anymore: http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningth鈥?/a>
Unless you give full custody of the child to a family member or friend for the duration of the first part of your contract, you cannot enlist in the military as AD. Only the Reserves will allow you to enlist and you must have a Family Plan set for them to take you.
This isn't a new policy this is a policy that has been in play for awhile.
Talk to the recruiter and see if you have court papers giving one of the grand parents joint / shared custody, if there could be a waiver for your situation. Good Luck.
Vet-USAF
@dded 1/18/08 I talked to a recruiter Friend of mine today and he said that you could not come back active duty but you could come back as reserve. Sorry
I've never heard of that regulation. I know you have to have a family care plan, to include regular care for your child.
They should let you back in if you sign custody over to someone else at least if you have to go to basic training after that it shouldn't matter.
Never heard of this. Try another recruiter.
its true you cant go back to active duty as a single parent (ref AR 601-210 chapter 2). however you do qualify for the ARMY reserves, as long as you have a good family care plan in place.
your recruiter is essentially right.I am prior service single parent and wanted to rejoin the army active duty the recruiter said I had to be?
You do not have to be married. However, during any basic training and tech school, you will have to sign gaurdianship of your children over to someone else (usually a grandparent or a non-custodial parent). You can have it done in a way that gaurdianship will then be returned to you after you complete your training and are sent to your first duty station. BUT you will always have to have a family care plan in place. Basically, this is a plan detailing who would take and care for your children in the event of a deployment or being stationed in a place that does not allow family members to accompany (Korea is the best known of these). You will also have to have complete child care plans, including having child care to cover for any schedule (since many fields work 12 hour schedules or are in sections that run 24/7). Many single parents are serving in the armed forces and are doing so in an exemplery manner, but it does take a lot more planning and effort than it might take if you were married. Be sure that you have the support you will need if you need it before you enlist, otherwise you may find yourself in a very tight spot.
The Army National Guard seems to be the only branch that will consider single parents anymore: http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningth鈥?/a>
Unless you give full custody of the child to a family member or friend for the duration of the first part of your contract, you cannot enlist in the military as AD. Only the Reserves will allow you to enlist and you must have a Family Plan set for them to take you.
This isn't a new policy this is a policy that has been in play for awhile.
Talk to the recruiter and see if you have court papers giving one of the grand parents joint / shared custody, if there could be a waiver for your situation. Good Luck.
Vet-USAF
@dded 1/18/08 I talked to a recruiter Friend of mine today and he said that you could not come back active duty but you could come back as reserve. Sorry
I've never heard of that regulation. I know you have to have a family care plan, to include regular care for your child.
They should let you back in if you sign custody over to someone else at least if you have to go to basic training after that it shouldn't matter.
Never heard of this. Try another recruiter.
Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
treated a certain way growing up for instance her parents or guardians hide things from them or didn't give them something they needed.
Now your parents raising you the same way they were treated by their parents, for example hiding certains things for you not to use. Can't that be a reflection of what was done to your parents for them to treat you like that.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
Yes. Often the behavior we see in our parents is reflective of the way they were treated while growing up. Unless there was another strong parental influence in their lives, your parents are basically reenacting their childhoods with you. It happens to the best of us. Even if we state we will not be like our parents, we end up acting like them eventually. I said that I was not going to be like my mother when I was growing up. Now, I have begun to notice small similarities between us. It's not always a bad thing. But it is difficult to shake that trend.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
That's a really simplified version of the truth. It's definitely a possibility, because the biggest model for someone who is a parent are the people they watched when they were a kid (and by that I mean, their parents). But that doesn't mean that everything that parents do is the same as what their parents do! It's just one factor that plays into how people learn to do one of the most difficult tasks in life.
it is unfair and unfortunate that our parents raise us the same way that they were. they can't always figure it out that somethings that was good for them isn't good for us. times change people chang as it has been said many millions of times. we need to keep up with the times. conservatives people don't like to change and are too afraid to change or make changes. most conservatives believe that if it's not broken, don't fix it.
anyway, when it comes time for you to raise your children if there is something that doesn't seem right than change it. try to remember your parents and what they did about it. then remember how this mad you feel. after that you should be able to safely make your changes. by the way it makes no sense to try and analise what your parents went though with their parents. you have to remember that these people didn't use their brains as much as we do now.
I'm a bit confused, but I've always made a conscientious effort NOT to raise my child the way I was raised, in any way. It's now normal for me to not do the things or react the way my parents did (even though the instinct pops in my head immediately) and I hope my son learns that.
I don't get what they could be hiding from you that you NEED to use. Maybe you should grow up, get a job, and buy your own things. If your parents don't want you to use something that is theirs, then you should get over it and respect their wishes.
yes it's true. but only because they think that everyone was treated like that, and that it was normal to treat them like that. yes, i think it's unfair that they do that.
Sure, my dad got spoiled, so do I. But with my mom, it's not really opposite from how she was raised but it's a lot different. Her parents were stingy (sin-gee?) and my mom is a little and has a hard time spending $75 on a tshirt for me, but my dad doesn't.
yes, but it isnt as likely as it is said to be
theres sometimes its the way someone is raised, and everyone else is like that
but its not usually a continuing trait
probably. you should bring your concerns to your parents. stop the cycle try not to repeat these mysterious behaviors with your kids.
sounds like you figured it out...whatever their hiding must have a tabooo meaning to it
sounds like a vicious cycle
Now your parents raising you the same way they were treated by their parents, for example hiding certains things for you not to use. Can't that be a reflection of what was done to your parents for them to treat you like that.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
Yes. Often the behavior we see in our parents is reflective of the way they were treated while growing up. Unless there was another strong parental influence in their lives, your parents are basically reenacting their childhoods with you. It happens to the best of us. Even if we state we will not be like our parents, we end up acting like them eventually. I said that I was not going to be like my mother when I was growing up. Now, I have begun to notice small similarities between us. It's not always a bad thing. But it is difficult to shake that trend.Is this true let's say you have a parent and your parent was?
That's a really simplified version of the truth. It's definitely a possibility, because the biggest model for someone who is a parent are the people they watched when they were a kid (and by that I mean, their parents). But that doesn't mean that everything that parents do is the same as what their parents do! It's just one factor that plays into how people learn to do one of the most difficult tasks in life.
it is unfair and unfortunate that our parents raise us the same way that they were. they can't always figure it out that somethings that was good for them isn't good for us. times change people chang as it has been said many millions of times. we need to keep up with the times. conservatives people don't like to change and are too afraid to change or make changes. most conservatives believe that if it's not broken, don't fix it.
anyway, when it comes time for you to raise your children if there is something that doesn't seem right than change it. try to remember your parents and what they did about it. then remember how this mad you feel. after that you should be able to safely make your changes. by the way it makes no sense to try and analise what your parents went though with their parents. you have to remember that these people didn't use their brains as much as we do now.
I'm a bit confused, but I've always made a conscientious effort NOT to raise my child the way I was raised, in any way. It's now normal for me to not do the things or react the way my parents did (even though the instinct pops in my head immediately) and I hope my son learns that.
I don't get what they could be hiding from you that you NEED to use. Maybe you should grow up, get a job, and buy your own things. If your parents don't want you to use something that is theirs, then you should get over it and respect their wishes.
yes it's true. but only because they think that everyone was treated like that, and that it was normal to treat them like that. yes, i think it's unfair that they do that.
Sure, my dad got spoiled, so do I. But with my mom, it's not really opposite from how she was raised but it's a lot different. Her parents were stingy (sin-gee?) and my mom is a little and has a hard time spending $75 on a tshirt for me, but my dad doesn't.
yes, but it isnt as likely as it is said to be
theres sometimes its the way someone is raised, and everyone else is like that
but its not usually a continuing trait
probably. you should bring your concerns to your parents. stop the cycle try not to repeat these mysterious behaviors with your kids.
sounds like you figured it out...whatever their hiding must have a tabooo meaning to it
sounds like a vicious cycle
How could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Unless they tell you, or you find out from documentation, you can't. By ordering it by court, can get you into some pretty high cost. If the person tested, is found out not to be your parent. You can be sued. Just ask nicely and they may tell you, or they could just lie to you as well. Good Luck!How could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
IMpossibleHow could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Are you trying to verify paternity? Not the most accurate, considering that depending on the blood type; millions of people could have the same type.
IMpossibleHow could I find out a blood type of a parent without a test if I know mine and the other parents types?
Are you trying to verify paternity? Not the most accurate, considering that depending on the blood type; millions of people could have the same type.
How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
Well, without more details, I would say the best thing to do is ignore them. If they're saying things like ';My son scored more goals that your son and should have more playing time.'; or ';My daughter has been taking tap lessons longer than your daughter and should have the solo.'; Then just reply with something like ';Your son/daughter is a VERY good player/dancer. We're just happy that our child has the opportunity to play/dance with so many kids of different skill levels and we're proud of all of them.'; Then walk away.
If it's not so much competition as comparing them all the time: ';Billy doesn't catch a ball as well as Johnny does, have you noticed?'; ';Amy can spell her name AND count to 10, why doesn't Jenny do that yet?'; A similar answer would do: ';It really is great that Billy/Amy are so good at catching/spelling. Johnny/Jenny like to catch/spell, too and will probably catch up soon.'; Then smile politely and walk away.
The point is to not get dragged in to the competition. Nobody's kids are better than anyone else's and you should try to shield your kids from that mean-spirited competetiveness and focus on learning to take turns, learning how to be a good winner and a good loser, and enjoying the activity they're involved in.How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
get your kids the better coaching.. kick the other kids parents kids butts.. do what you can to get the edge..How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
Personally I just wouldn't let my children play with their children much anymore. Children don't need to be in an environment where they always feel extreme pressure to succeed or be better than someone else. I don't feel that it's healthy. Our society today pushes children so hard to be better than anyone else and I feel that it's detrimental to our children. In school's anyone who is in normal classes is stupid, those in Honors are normal, and those in AP are the ones considered intelligent. I don't even want to think about what the children in remedial programs are considered. It all leads to self esteem issues that can last a lifetime.
Don't handle them.
They're stuck-up snobs.
Although you can just laugh and say 'Hey, at least mine has love.' and see the look on their faces!
Well as they say, their always trying to keep up with the Jones's. just let them compete, as long as there's no bodily or emotional harm, let them act childish. You can't tell another grown person what to do with their kids.
I grew up in a split family home. My step father had two girls my age. We were always in competition with each other. And I can't lie and say our parents weren't a good part of it. If my mom went and bought me a sweater, he would go buy his girls one nicer and more expensive. We were competitive when it came to sports, school work, and even dating and driving.
This hurts the children. Especially their relationships with each other. We should had grown up being best friends! Getting ready for dances, proms, doing projects together, hanging out, movies, but we weren't. And now we are grown, married, and have children, and still yet the feelings are there. Now our parents compare the grandchildren. Its wrong.
Try doing more together. Most importantly talk with the other parent. It may be that that parent was cut down or didn't feel good about their self as a child. Try to resolve this issue as soon as you can.
get a better job because youll need the money to win the battle
Let them know that you feel they are acting immaturely.
Keep you kids away from her kids, people like that haven't figured out that the world doesn't revolve around them and their kids. You can try and talk to her but it probably won't work. Good Luck...
Have your children be better than them, my Angelica is way better than my brother Stu's Tommy and Dil.
I guess that I would try to talk to her by letting her know that you don't want to herts her feelings. then try telling her how you feel. Just let her know that it looks to you how ever it looks and then try talking to her about it and lit her know that it herts her kids.
Be the bigger person and brush it off... it happens all the time. You just got to learn that its not worth fretting over! Good Luck!
If it's not so much competition as comparing them all the time: ';Billy doesn't catch a ball as well as Johnny does, have you noticed?'; ';Amy can spell her name AND count to 10, why doesn't Jenny do that yet?'; A similar answer would do: ';It really is great that Billy/Amy are so good at catching/spelling. Johnny/Jenny like to catch/spell, too and will probably catch up soon.'; Then smile politely and walk away.
The point is to not get dragged in to the competition. Nobody's kids are better than anyone else's and you should try to shield your kids from that mean-spirited competetiveness and focus on learning to take turns, learning how to be a good winner and a good loser, and enjoying the activity they're involved in.How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
get your kids the better coaching.. kick the other kids parents kids butts.. do what you can to get the edge..How do you handle a parent who competes their children against your children?
Personally I just wouldn't let my children play with their children much anymore. Children don't need to be in an environment where they always feel extreme pressure to succeed or be better than someone else. I don't feel that it's healthy. Our society today pushes children so hard to be better than anyone else and I feel that it's detrimental to our children. In school's anyone who is in normal classes is stupid, those in Honors are normal, and those in AP are the ones considered intelligent. I don't even want to think about what the children in remedial programs are considered. It all leads to self esteem issues that can last a lifetime.
Don't handle them.
They're stuck-up snobs.
Although you can just laugh and say 'Hey, at least mine has love.' and see the look on their faces!
Well as they say, their always trying to keep up with the Jones's. just let them compete, as long as there's no bodily or emotional harm, let them act childish. You can't tell another grown person what to do with their kids.
I grew up in a split family home. My step father had two girls my age. We were always in competition with each other. And I can't lie and say our parents weren't a good part of it. If my mom went and bought me a sweater, he would go buy his girls one nicer and more expensive. We were competitive when it came to sports, school work, and even dating and driving.
This hurts the children. Especially their relationships with each other. We should had grown up being best friends! Getting ready for dances, proms, doing projects together, hanging out, movies, but we weren't. And now we are grown, married, and have children, and still yet the feelings are there. Now our parents compare the grandchildren. Its wrong.
Try doing more together. Most importantly talk with the other parent. It may be that that parent was cut down or didn't feel good about their self as a child. Try to resolve this issue as soon as you can.
get a better job because youll need the money to win the battle
Let them know that you feel they are acting immaturely.
Keep you kids away from her kids, people like that haven't figured out that the world doesn't revolve around them and their kids. You can try and talk to her but it probably won't work. Good Luck...
Have your children be better than them, my Angelica is way better than my brother Stu's Tommy and Dil.
I guess that I would try to talk to her by letting her know that you don't want to herts her feelings. then try telling her how you feel. Just let her know that it looks to you how ever it looks and then try talking to her about it and lit her know that it herts her kids.
Be the bigger person and brush it off... it happens all the time. You just got to learn that its not worth fretting over! Good Luck!
Are you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
My son will be starting high school real soon and I wanted some advice from teens/parents of teens on how to help him get better grades. Teens: Do you have any good study tips, organization tips that would be helpful? Parents: any good advice on keeping your child motivated about his schoolwork, what are your rules concerning when homework need to be done, how do you support your highschooler, do you reward good grades at all?Are you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
Keep him involved in other things. It helps a child stay focus. Maybe let him play a sport that he enjoys, when ppl feel good about one aspect of their life they try to keep the others up to par. Also be around, there's nothing worse than a kid who doesn't have support. Just make sure you're not doing his wirk and make sure you know how he's doing, but don't smother him or baby him or he'll cop outAre you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
im a teenager, i always got hihger grades cause i wanted my parents to be proud of me. but if i got good grades, they dont give me any reward. you know why im in rank 5 because im more focusing in my studies. im a hardworking student because i have my own goals to achieve, and i really wanted to achieve it. and i have one more reason, cause i dont want to be friends with the bad guys were they are so much influence. so i having friends with a good attitude.
Well for one thing lots of love and acceptance helps. If you love him and praise him often then he will want to try harder. Tell him to just do his best work, and that's all that you expect of him. He may not make straight A's but A's and B's But that's good ! If they do their best thats all you can ask of him. Pressuring a child can do more harm than good. I've put a little pressure on my child to make them understand that with good grades she can get scholarships to college, and good grades will benefit her (not me) in the long run. She (or he) must work hard to get into college. Nothing is more important than keeping focused on good grades. On the other hand I give my child a lot of freedom to do what she wants. I don't have her doing a lot of housework or in any outside sports or other activities her only responsibility is homework. When homework is done she can get on her computer, play games, watch movies etc. I also encourage lots of rest, go to bed early, and wake up early and do yoga when she gets up, or before she goes to bed. (She picked the exercise video) Recently I switched my child from a typical highschool to a alternative highschool. She didn't like the traditional setting and the drama of the kids. So I put her into that school to make her happy. (I went to a regular high school, and didn't understand why she would want to go to a different one) But I changed to make her happy and her grades and attendance went up. This was just what she needed. We parents have to do what is best for the child, or what the child wants (if it's a minor change) to make them happy. Putting pressure on them makes them miserable, and rebel, and they don't do very well. I don't agree with switching to an Alternative school normally because they don't offer the band, and foreign language and other things, and they are half days, but I had to figure do I want to be right, and force my child to do what I want or think is best or do I want my child to get through school wanting to do her best and being happy with herself. I want my child to be happy and have less stress. I don't generally award for good grades, hard work is it's own reward. I do give a little reward for certificates of perfect attendance and honor roll and other things (Usually once a year, at the end of the year) (But not for each report card) As fdr study habits, she must come home and do homework right after school, this way her mind is fresh from the day of education. I tell her to take notes, and keep a calendar for things she needs to remember, and an assignment book. I also have good communication with all her teachers which helps and lets my child know I'm interested in her education and I know if she does her homework, or falls behind, or is missing homework, or what her homework is. I ask the teacher each week via e-mail how my child is doing.
I have a teen that according to all the standarized test is very smart. However he gets bad grade because he does not turn in the assingments. I keep telling him that being smart is not enough you have to show the work. The is his senior year. We are praying he does better. Tell you child to DO THE WORK
I'm a teen. Though I wouldn't say that I have excellent grades, my grades aren't really what you'd call average or above average. I'm in my third year in high school so I survived the last two years. :P I don't really have study habits, at least I don't think I do but hopefully, your son will be able to use some of my suggestions:
- You should give yourself a time limit. Pressure yourself. I actually find it better if I cram because then I would be pressured to finish my projects, assignments, etc. If I get pressured then my mind will only be focused on one thing. So I guess, you should pressure yourself to study and do your tasks.
- It's better to study little by little than go all out in one day. Yes, as I've mentioned above I do cram. But I read in a magazine that you'll be able to memorize things better if you do it little by little 'cause then the facts will stay with you longer or something like that. My Chemistry teacher is making us memorize the periodic table and she gives us 10-item quizzes everyday involving 10 elements. Our first quiz was composed of elements 1-10, the next one about 11-20, etc. Most of the class got 9-10 as their scores.
- Have a study buddy! Or form a study group if you like. I don't really have one but sometimes when I'm with friends, we review each other and we clarify some things about a certain topic, etc. Sometimes, a few minutes before the exam, I sit with my friends and we ask each other questions. If ever she asks me a question which I don't know the answer to, I tell her I don't know and she'll give me the answer. Then I remember it before the start of the exam.
- When you're studying a subject, I suggest to read it first instead of memorizing every little detail that comes your way. I read the book first and since I cram during the periodicals, I usually don't have time to memorize each little fact. But then since I read it, I understand what happened, how this went, etc. You don't really need to memorize, you just have to understand what you read. But in the case of enumeration type of tests, then you should put yourself in the mood so as you won't get distracted too easily.
- Create a reviewer whenever you've got a big test coming up. Just fill it in with information that you think is going to be in the test. Don't duplicate your notes.
- On organization, I usually have a folder for each subject so that I would be able to find what I need for a certain subject easily. I recently bought a file case(?). I don't know what it's called but it's got these pockets inside for each subject. I suggest you find something like that so that your kid wouldn't have too much to bring.
Hope this helps you and your son. But I just hope that you wouldn't put too much pressure on him since that'll be a bad thing. Let him do this on his own. If you liked my suggestions, you could give it to him as advice but don't force him to use them since what I do don't really work on everybody. We've all got different learning styles so....
But anyways, my parents didn't pressure me into studying, they just encouraged me and they support me and whatever I do. It'll be best if you let your son be interested in school and whatever that goes inside it by himself. He would get better grades if he's really interested in the lesson/subject because he really likes it. Not because his parents forced him to like it. Give him space but not so much that he'll be at the point wherein he can abuse it.
Please do remember that since he's starting high school, it's best to let him join different clubs. This way, he can explore different things that interest him while at the same time he's enhancing different skills and talents. Also, so that he wouldn't feel too stressed about the fact that the only reason why he's in school is to study. You should let him have fun too. :D
Goodluck! Hope I've been of help! :)
Umm Hard question. All three of my teens do very well in high school. They all got on national honor society and the one who just graduated got the honors diploma.
I rewarded them in grade school, they had their choice of money for the A's or go out to eat somewhere nice. They always chose going out to eat.
I think by teaching/rewarding them for good grades and study habits back then continued in high school. I didnt have to do anything with them while in high school. I dont even reward them.
I just verbally tell them good job, give em a hug and I dont diss on them if the bring home the dreaded C. I know how hard they study so no way would I ever bring them down if they bring home a bad grade.
me teen with all A ++
just study 3 hours daily and thats it.
I graduated third in my class with honors. Getting good grades and doing well in school was instilled in me when I was little. My mom is also going back to college and my sister is also in school, so the three of us have ';homework hour';s where we get together in the living room and we do our homework. It's beneficial because we can't get distracted and we have each other to help us if we run into any problems. We take breaks every so often to get food or just rest, that way we don't get too bored and lose focus.
I had a lot of reading to do in high school, so I'd type out summaries of the passages into my own words so they made more sense (a little time-consuming, but it definitely helps to remember and better understand concepts). We weren't allowed marking in our textbooks, so in history class, I'd type/write notes in my own words, and then highlight certain things in certain colors (ex: dates in orange, names in yellow, people in green, etc... a little neurotic, I know! But it also helped).
Creating a sort of quiz after reading or before a test also helps. I would have one piece of paper with questions on it (ex: ';Psychology is the study of ________?'; or ';The five types of (something) are 1. _________ 2. _________'; etc.) and then I'd fill out the answers in pencil and then go back and look at the real answers. Whatever I left blank or got wrong, I would correct in a red pen (that way the things I still needed to know jumped out at me), and then take the quiz again until eventually I knew everything.
Having binders for each class with folder tabs marked for homework, tests/quizzes, notes, etc. helps stay organized. Using flashcards helped me a LOT, especially with remembering vocab or events in history. An agenda book or planner also helps keep assignments straight and will help remind your son when certain things are due.
I did sports in high school and it actually benefitted my grades because I didn't have time to put things off or procrastinate. Also, find out if your son studies better alone or with people, and then have him adapt his study skills to that.
I was given $10 for every report card, but if I even had one B, I did not get a dime. It definitely motivated me since I was not given an allowance. I'm not sure you should be that strict on motivating him, but it did work for me.
High school is more difficult than middle school and the assignments are longer, more in depth, and due in shorter amounts of time. There will be set-backs and frustrations, but just be there for your son when he experiences rough times. Hope my ideas helped! :o)
ya, i m a teen of 18 yr old .student of b.tech-1st yr.if your son has less i mean 1-2 or no friends be friendly to him and dont give any pressure.if he had more friends you r need to be strict at the time of home work other time u can be friendly to him.lipstick gloss
Keep him involved in other things. It helps a child stay focus. Maybe let him play a sport that he enjoys, when ppl feel good about one aspect of their life they try to keep the others up to par. Also be around, there's nothing worse than a kid who doesn't have support. Just make sure you're not doing his wirk and make sure you know how he's doing, but don't smother him or baby him or he'll cop outAre you a teen or parent of teen with excellent grades?
im a teenager, i always got hihger grades cause i wanted my parents to be proud of me. but if i got good grades, they dont give me any reward. you know why im in rank 5 because im more focusing in my studies. im a hardworking student because i have my own goals to achieve, and i really wanted to achieve it. and i have one more reason, cause i dont want to be friends with the bad guys were they are so much influence. so i having friends with a good attitude.
Well for one thing lots of love and acceptance helps. If you love him and praise him often then he will want to try harder. Tell him to just do his best work, and that's all that you expect of him. He may not make straight A's but A's and B's But that's good ! If they do their best thats all you can ask of him. Pressuring a child can do more harm than good. I've put a little pressure on my child to make them understand that with good grades she can get scholarships to college, and good grades will benefit her (not me) in the long run. She (or he) must work hard to get into college. Nothing is more important than keeping focused on good grades. On the other hand I give my child a lot of freedom to do what she wants. I don't have her doing a lot of housework or in any outside sports or other activities her only responsibility is homework. When homework is done she can get on her computer, play games, watch movies etc. I also encourage lots of rest, go to bed early, and wake up early and do yoga when she gets up, or before she goes to bed. (She picked the exercise video) Recently I switched my child from a typical highschool to a alternative highschool. She didn't like the traditional setting and the drama of the kids. So I put her into that school to make her happy. (I went to a regular high school, and didn't understand why she would want to go to a different one) But I changed to make her happy and her grades and attendance went up. This was just what she needed. We parents have to do what is best for the child, or what the child wants (if it's a minor change) to make them happy. Putting pressure on them makes them miserable, and rebel, and they don't do very well. I don't agree with switching to an Alternative school normally because they don't offer the band, and foreign language and other things, and they are half days, but I had to figure do I want to be right, and force my child to do what I want or think is best or do I want my child to get through school wanting to do her best and being happy with herself. I want my child to be happy and have less stress. I don't generally award for good grades, hard work is it's own reward. I do give a little reward for certificates of perfect attendance and honor roll and other things (Usually once a year, at the end of the year) (But not for each report card) As fdr study habits, she must come home and do homework right after school, this way her mind is fresh from the day of education. I tell her to take notes, and keep a calendar for things she needs to remember, and an assignment book. I also have good communication with all her teachers which helps and lets my child know I'm interested in her education and I know if she does her homework, or falls behind, or is missing homework, or what her homework is. I ask the teacher each week via e-mail how my child is doing.
I have a teen that according to all the standarized test is very smart. However he gets bad grade because he does not turn in the assingments. I keep telling him that being smart is not enough you have to show the work. The is his senior year. We are praying he does better. Tell you child to DO THE WORK
I'm a teen. Though I wouldn't say that I have excellent grades, my grades aren't really what you'd call average or above average. I'm in my third year in high school so I survived the last two years. :P I don't really have study habits, at least I don't think I do but hopefully, your son will be able to use some of my suggestions:
- You should give yourself a time limit. Pressure yourself. I actually find it better if I cram because then I would be pressured to finish my projects, assignments, etc. If I get pressured then my mind will only be focused on one thing. So I guess, you should pressure yourself to study and do your tasks.
- It's better to study little by little than go all out in one day. Yes, as I've mentioned above I do cram. But I read in a magazine that you'll be able to memorize things better if you do it little by little 'cause then the facts will stay with you longer or something like that. My Chemistry teacher is making us memorize the periodic table and she gives us 10-item quizzes everyday involving 10 elements. Our first quiz was composed of elements 1-10, the next one about 11-20, etc. Most of the class got 9-10 as their scores.
- Have a study buddy! Or form a study group if you like. I don't really have one but sometimes when I'm with friends, we review each other and we clarify some things about a certain topic, etc. Sometimes, a few minutes before the exam, I sit with my friends and we ask each other questions. If ever she asks me a question which I don't know the answer to, I tell her I don't know and she'll give me the answer. Then I remember it before the start of the exam.
- When you're studying a subject, I suggest to read it first instead of memorizing every little detail that comes your way. I read the book first and since I cram during the periodicals, I usually don't have time to memorize each little fact. But then since I read it, I understand what happened, how this went, etc. You don't really need to memorize, you just have to understand what you read. But in the case of enumeration type of tests, then you should put yourself in the mood so as you won't get distracted too easily.
- Create a reviewer whenever you've got a big test coming up. Just fill it in with information that you think is going to be in the test. Don't duplicate your notes.
- On organization, I usually have a folder for each subject so that I would be able to find what I need for a certain subject easily. I recently bought a file case(?). I don't know what it's called but it's got these pockets inside for each subject. I suggest you find something like that so that your kid wouldn't have too much to bring.
Hope this helps you and your son. But I just hope that you wouldn't put too much pressure on him since that'll be a bad thing. Let him do this on his own. If you liked my suggestions, you could give it to him as advice but don't force him to use them since what I do don't really work on everybody. We've all got different learning styles so....
But anyways, my parents didn't pressure me into studying, they just encouraged me and they support me and whatever I do. It'll be best if you let your son be interested in school and whatever that goes inside it by himself. He would get better grades if he's really interested in the lesson/subject because he really likes it. Not because his parents forced him to like it. Give him space but not so much that he'll be at the point wherein he can abuse it.
Please do remember that since he's starting high school, it's best to let him join different clubs. This way, he can explore different things that interest him while at the same time he's enhancing different skills and talents. Also, so that he wouldn't feel too stressed about the fact that the only reason why he's in school is to study. You should let him have fun too. :D
Goodluck! Hope I've been of help! :)
Umm Hard question. All three of my teens do very well in high school. They all got on national honor society and the one who just graduated got the honors diploma.
I rewarded them in grade school, they had their choice of money for the A's or go out to eat somewhere nice. They always chose going out to eat.
I think by teaching/rewarding them for good grades and study habits back then continued in high school. I didnt have to do anything with them while in high school. I dont even reward them.
I just verbally tell them good job, give em a hug and I dont diss on them if the bring home the dreaded C. I know how hard they study so no way would I ever bring them down if they bring home a bad grade.
me teen with all A ++
just study 3 hours daily and thats it.
I graduated third in my class with honors. Getting good grades and doing well in school was instilled in me when I was little. My mom is also going back to college and my sister is also in school, so the three of us have ';homework hour';s where we get together in the living room and we do our homework. It's beneficial because we can't get distracted and we have each other to help us if we run into any problems. We take breaks every so often to get food or just rest, that way we don't get too bored and lose focus.
I had a lot of reading to do in high school, so I'd type out summaries of the passages into my own words so they made more sense (a little time-consuming, but it definitely helps to remember and better understand concepts). We weren't allowed marking in our textbooks, so in history class, I'd type/write notes in my own words, and then highlight certain things in certain colors (ex: dates in orange, names in yellow, people in green, etc... a little neurotic, I know! But it also helped).
Creating a sort of quiz after reading or before a test also helps. I would have one piece of paper with questions on it (ex: ';Psychology is the study of ________?'; or ';The five types of (something) are 1. _________ 2. _________'; etc.) and then I'd fill out the answers in pencil and then go back and look at the real answers. Whatever I left blank or got wrong, I would correct in a red pen (that way the things I still needed to know jumped out at me), and then take the quiz again until eventually I knew everything.
Having binders for each class with folder tabs marked for homework, tests/quizzes, notes, etc. helps stay organized. Using flashcards helped me a LOT, especially with remembering vocab or events in history. An agenda book or planner also helps keep assignments straight and will help remind your son when certain things are due.
I did sports in high school and it actually benefitted my grades because I didn't have time to put things off or procrastinate. Also, find out if your son studies better alone or with people, and then have him adapt his study skills to that.
I was given $10 for every report card, but if I even had one B, I did not get a dime. It definitely motivated me since I was not given an allowance. I'm not sure you should be that strict on motivating him, but it did work for me.
High school is more difficult than middle school and the assignments are longer, more in depth, and due in shorter amounts of time. There will be set-backs and frustrations, but just be there for your son when he experiences rough times. Hope my ideas helped! :o)
ya, i m a teen of 18 yr old .student of b.tech-1st yr.if your son has less i mean 1-2 or no friends be friendly to him and dont give any pressure.if he had more friends you r need to be strict at the time of home work other time u can be friendly to him.
Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
Shravan Kumar is a character of ancient time Hindu epic ';Ramayana';.Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
Their names were not given in the epic. it just says that they were blind and frail. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
it is belived that name of shravan's father was SHANTVAN and mother's name was GYANVATI
u can refer to the book-
Shrawan Kumar (The worthy son) By B.K. Chaturvedi
Dear Friends!!
I know their Name.....
Shravan Kumar's Father's Name was Shantvan Kumar Sharma
Mother's Name was Gyanvati S. Sharma and
Sister was Vidyavati Sharma (After marriage Vidyavati Narbada Shankar)
So Tanuj is absolutely right....
Sorry, I cannot find it anywhere..I tried to research it but after a couple of dozen sites, they all refer to his parents as just that ';his parents';. The story is a legend, part of the cultures mythologies so I am guessing that the parents were not given a name because it had nothing to do with the concept of the story, which is be devoted to your parents. I'll keep looking and if I come across it I will re-post the answer, and if you happen to find out please post it because now I need to know! :)
Their names were not given in the epic. it just says that they were blind and frail. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>Can anybody tell me the Parent's Name of Shravan Kumar of Ramayana?
it is belived that name of shravan's father was SHANTVAN and mother's name was GYANVATI
u can refer to the book-
Shrawan Kumar (The worthy son) By B.K. Chaturvedi
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Dear Friends!!
I know their Name.....
Shravan Kumar's Father's Name was Shantvan Kumar Sharma
Mother's Name was Gyanvati S. Sharma and
Sister was Vidyavati Sharma (After marriage Vidyavati Narbada Shankar)
So Tanuj is absolutely right....
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Sorry, I cannot find it anywhere..I tried to research it but after a couple of dozen sites, they all refer to his parents as just that ';his parents';. The story is a legend, part of the cultures mythologies so I am guessing that the parents were not given a name because it had nothing to do with the concept of the story, which is be devoted to your parents. I'll keep looking and if I come across it I will re-post the answer, and if you happen to find out please post it because now I need to know! :)
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